Should I Tell My Friend I Feel She Is Being Rude & Tacky

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Should I Tell My Friend I Feel She Is Being Rude & Tacky
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Tue, 07-17-2012 - 2:02am

I received an Evite to a friend's housewarming from her sister. The next day I received a text from my friend stating Target gift cards are not acceptable and that she wants cash and that she knows Target gift cards are convenient but she does not shop there. I thought her text to be rude and tacky. I have never heard of someone asking for money as a house warming present and feel that a money gift should be a choice and not a demand.  Plus I feel target has some nice things for the home and even if you don't shop there you could use the gift card to buy household stuff like toilet paper, paper towels, etc.

Since I received that text I have felt like.... what nerve she has and  don't want to go at all because I didn't appreciate her text. I know it is common to give money gifts to newlyweds,  or for graduations or children's birthdays, but when did housewarmings start being included!

I have talked to other friends who received the same text and we all feel she is out of line. Plus this is not her first home and she really does not need anything and I feel this housewarming is a ploy to get money from her friends. I'm thinking of just not going because I have no intention of giving her money and I was thinking more along the lines of a nice house plant or towels. But I was wondering if I should tell her how not only myself but other friends were put off by her comments and felt them to be rude and tacky or just keep quiet?

 

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Registered: 11-08-2010
TACKY! TACKY! TACKY! IF SHE WANTED CERTAIN GIFTS THEN SHE SHOULD OF HAVE DONE A REGISTRY BUT TO DEMAND CASH...WOW!! IT SHOULD BE YOUR CHOICE ON WHAT GIFT YOU WANT TO GIVE. I WOULD GO AND NOT BRING ANYTHING AND KEEP MY TARGET CARD AND MY CASH SINCE YOUR MIND HAS BEEN MADE FOR YOU..... AND LATER IF ASKED WHY YOU DIDNT BRING ANYTHING , JUS SAY YOU DIDNT HAVE ANY AVAILABLE CASH ON YOU AND IT SEEMS LIKE THAT WAS THE THING SHE WAS EXCEPTING..