Should I try to mediate? If so how?
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|Wed, 12-04-2013 - 2:54pm|
one of my good girlfriends and my bf's best friend used to be really good friends, where they would go to movies and just meet up for dinner sometimes. They met through us and we used to do group things all the time. I think he may have had a crush on her (she's much older mid 30s and him more of a boy man late 20s). they used to flirt (IMO she kinda captialized on his attention too much) but we know and they know nothing would happen.
long story short, 5 months ago we had a group Vegas trip and she did not behave herself at all. She was inebriated and was mean and saying inappropriate things just to get attention for the most part of the trip, that even our other girlfriend and I were super annoyed and worried. even after we told her many times that she needs to stop drinking she wouldn't listen, we had to get the bartenders involved to get her to stop. Granted she had been very stressed at work and in her personal life that she was acting out, but still, not an excuse to get the way she got. After the trip, my bf's friend stopped hanging out w us (I still hang out w him along w the bf but he doesn't come to group things anymore). We didn't think much of it since he's sort of a flake. But then my bf told me his friend doesn't want to hang out w her anymore because of all the drama she caused. She's commented since we've been back how he has been MIA.
it kinda bothers me that we don't do group things anymore and I hate to see the friendship fizzle out. should I tell her that's probably why he hasn't been around and let her do what she thinks she should do? she does kind of need a wake up call (me and the other girlfriend did talk about an intervention but didnt end up doing it). Or should I stay out of it? I know he would never confront her about it since he's more of the ignore rather than confront type. On the other hand, it's not a huge loss and it's ok that we hang out separately. I'm not the confrontational type either but I will do it to resolve something that I feel needs to be resolved...