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| Mon, 08-04-2003 - 9:17pm |
I just will say what I was told my second cousin, Im not butting or have a say in her mother’s relationship.
My second cousin mother’s got separated (not divorced yet) from her husband like 6 months ago. My second cousin is a very sharp, wise girl, she absorbs everything she listens and tell everyone what she heard or see. My cousin does not live anymore with her husband, she lives only with her daughter in an apartment, my cousin is a very open minded woman, who is not afraid to say what’s on her mind. It seems my cousin, although I cannot confirm if it is true or not but according to her daughter, her mom is seeing a guy from work, they are both coworkers, the guy in question is divorced and have 2 kids but they are not living together of course, they are just getting to know each other My second cousin now gets along really well with the guy, the mother introduced him to her. My second cousin at her age, she understands well about love, kissing, boyfriend, gf, etc.
This coming Saturday is my second cousin birthday. The birthday will be at my house. and my cousin will invite to the birthday her co-worker. My second cousin today told me her mom will invite the guy, then she asked me to promise her I wont tell anything to her dad about her mom inviting the guy over.. She quoted: “Please don’t tell my dad, my mom will invite this guy over, because he will think she is dating the guy and if he knew, my dad will stop depositing money for our apartment’s rent”. I mean, my cousin is not getting married or have plans to get marry anytime soon, or will live with the guy, I mean he is a coworker and they are friends. I mean, how my cousin speak adult issues in front of her daughter, knowing her daughter is very wise and she absorbs everything she listens and sees. Im gather that if my cousin’s husband finds out she is dating another guy, he will say, the guy will be the one who has to support her, not him anymore, that is what my second cousin meant when she told me what she told me, I guess. As I said my cousin is a woman with an open mind, and she does not measure what she says or behaves in front of her daughter. I think there are issues that kids should not know if they are small and parents should not talk in front of their kids.
However, that being said, I know that sometimes what is legal is not always what is done! I don't know what the answer is. But definitely the child should not be covering up for the mother. If the child inadvertently gives the game away then she will feel guilty. Like I said - don't know what the solution is I am afraid!