silly question about feeding unanounced guests

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silly question about feeding unanounced guests
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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 11:35pm

Hi all..

My DH asked a friend to come over and help him with some firewood.

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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 1:36am
I think everyone agreed that the visiting mom was rude. It was the OP's lack of acknowledgement that the "favor" had anything to do with her that struck a negative chord with most of us. I hate when I run into kids with bad manners, but I don't get angry about the kids or the stuff, I just feel sorry for them because they have crappy parents. That being said, if DH asked a friend to come over and do us a big favor, if, for whatever reason, that friend brought his family, I'd feel obliged to entertain, and I certainly wouldn't feel bitter about it.
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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 10:33am
She didn't owe it to him to feed his kids. Would it have been the polite thing to do? Of course, but gues what? SHE DID. That is the point a lot of you posting here seem to be missing. If I do a favor for a friend, I do it out of a willingness to help, not to get something in return. I'd say 99% of the population feel the same way. Had she not passed out snacks, I am certain they could have cared less.
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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 10:49am

Notsure, I'm sorry if my post offended you. I personally deemed some of the responses to her question, especially there towards the end of the thread, not very kind. I’m entitled to my opinion based on those observations. If you, or others disagree, that is also your prerogative. In lieu of that, I agree with you on the point that

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 11:31am

OP, we admitted that we think the mother was rude if she didn't ask you first, or say thanks.

You say the chips, candy and drinks aren't the issue, but you said in your first post

 

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 11:37am
CFK- or be passive aggressive and hypocritical, huh?
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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 12:17pm

I'm sorry, you are going to have to clarify. I have no idea what you are referring to...are you referencing me or the OP?

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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 12:21pm
Wow, her post began with CFK, lol!

 

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 12:43pm

Sometimes when I reply from my mobile device the post doesn't go to the person I clicked reply to, hence my starting the post with YOUR screen name.

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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 12:46pm

I think it's clear to any logical person reading these rediculous exchanges, excluding you and perhaps one or two more here, that I am not a

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Thu, 07-14-2011 - 1:35pm

Given that your responses alternate between hostile defiance and contrition within a single post, I agree that they are of a passive-aggressive nature.