silly question about feeding unanounced guests

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2007
silly question about feeding unanounced guests
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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 11:35pm

Hi all..

My DH asked a friend to come over and help him with some firewood.

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Registered: 07-26-2011
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 2:54am

Wow, I am irritated for you! You did the right thing, you couldn't do anything else. A child asks for sweets...if you have it you can't flat out say no. It was the mothers job to teach her kids manners.

My mother always taught my brother & I to first ask politely. But we were normally so shy we wouldn't even take things that were offered to us by hosts. Not to mention to only take a little not a whole bag because its greedy. That being said you weren't a host...like it wasn't a playdate. The guy was suppose to chop the wood? I'm thinking you either need to find a new wood chopper.... or just be prepared for the kids to ask for sweets and treats & their ill-mannered mother to not say anything. Maybe hide your sweets somewhere and just offer them something less appealing like a banana.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 2:48pm
If they went to help, in a way you had to reciprocate. Think what really bothers you. That they didn´t set limits to the kids? That it was too much from your perspective? That they went to help your hubby, but not you? That they should have said they will take a bunch of kids? Think, and set limits for a future situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 2:43pm
Ask you husband to find a friend to help him, that has no kids.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 2:10am

This is not a silly question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:51pm
Wow.

I couldn't imagine being so chintzy to hungry kids while their father is cutting my firewood as a favor. No matter that the girlfriend was rude.

They're not looking for a dinner invitation. They stopped by while their old man did the OP a favor. That's my whole take on it, and don't understand some of the comments here. Water instead of drinks that kids might enjoy, that I have in my possession? That's not how I'd treat any guest, much less the family of one doing us a favor.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:33pm

You are irritated b/c of their attitude.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 8:14am

Just imagine if they did have the chutzpah to go into her kitchen cupboard?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 8:13am

It's Paradigmshifter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 9:25pm

I wondered what there was about feeding unexpected guests to result in so many posts--now I guess I know.

My main thought after reading to original post was, isn't it a good thing JVL was there to pass out the chips and the candy?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 3:31pm

Paradi-whatever-er: I've been posting on these boards for close to a decade. I am not and never will be a troll, baiter or any of the like...you go on feeling the way you do, and I will do the same, K? We are just going to have to disagree, infinitely.

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