Sister is asking for her and her family to move in...

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Sister is asking for her and her family to move in...
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 1:28pm

My sister (I’ll call her Sue – not her real name) and I are not terribly close but we are on friendly terms.

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Registered: 10-14-2003

Oh my, that is a lot to expect and ask, but you offered and it would be difficult to go back on it.

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Registered: 10-11-2005

WOW~~I can feel for you.

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Thank you for validating that I am not crazy in thinking that she is asking a lot.

I'm thinking that I probably cannot go back on my word at this point, but I can clarify the offer and make it less appealing.

I figure I can offer my sister and her family to stay at my home for

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Sam,

Your description of your dh and the pew moving made me LOL - thank you for lightening my mood a bit.

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I would require they also pay for their own food and half the utilities.

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Houses are not selling real fast just yet.

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Registered: 10-14-2003

I think that you are being reasonable in those requests.

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Would it be awful of me to say I've thought about it, and after discussing it with my family, that you guys moving in is not a good idea?

I'm feeling family obligation guilt, but at the same time, I'm stressing out immensely at the thought of her moving in.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
isstuck wrote:

Would it be awful of me to say I've thought about it, and after discussing it with my family, that you guys moving in is not a good idea?

I'm feeling family obligation guilt, but at the same time, I'm stressing out immensely at the thought of her moving in.

That's a tough one. I would say that reneging on the deal is justifiable. It wouldn't be justifiable for her to get upset, because her staying with you is involving other people. OTOH, in reality, she most likely will be upset and you have to decide if the consequence is something you can live with. If you would care (or even welcome) her writing you off, I say go for it. You don't owe anyone.

If you decide to let her stay, definitely lay down some ground rules. I've seen friendships end, when one person stayed with another for a month or so.

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She will be upset at that so be prepared.

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