Sister is Falling Behind, How Do I Help?

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Sister is Falling Behind, How Do I Help?
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Sat, 11-26-2011 - 2:59pm

Although I do find myself banging my figurative head against a wall - this is not a venting session asmuchasitis a go at a call for help.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 5:32pm

Hi Wood Sage,

It sounds like your sister could use

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 7:20pm
It sounds like her OCD is not properly treated.
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Sat, 11-26-2011 - 9:07pm

I am still a virgin myself (I am 29). My morals and values make me so. I have no issue with her still being one as well.

I am concerned with the other matters you listed. I am in fact very scared.

PLEASE if nothing else go find a social worker. I am not sure what department or what service to look into. Does your county have a mental health service? My mom who is a social worker works with the developly disabled. Her company (which was a county agency since privatized) does work with other populations. Maybe they can step in and give some advice.

I am sure you love your sister. I am sure she loves you.

I am wondering if she has other issues like depression. There are many meds she could try for that. It will take some time but a doctor may find one that will help.

Pray for her but don't do a whole lot to the point where she gives up and make you take care of her. See my post in this section about helping people. I had a friend who took advantage of myself and my parents. I don't want you to suffer. I don't want you to be an enabler either.

She is very lucky to have you. Chin up. I really hope she gets the help she needs.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 12:55am

There is an excellent organization that may be able to help you help your sister: the National Alliance on Mental Illness (http://www.nami.org/).

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 1:04pm
Thank you so much! What a great website....She was diagnosed with OCD years ago, and although she takes regular medication and counseling from time to time, she hasn't really been evaluated in years. It seems like that maybe getting her more help for her OCD would treat the route of the problem...maybe by over-focusing on her job/relationship/appearance I've been distracted by her symptoms and have been overlooking the source of the problem. Again, can't thank you enough for your insights and those of others!
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Registered: 02-11-2008
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 1:07pm

Thank you!

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Sun, 11-27-2011 - 1:16pm
I don't know how long she's been under the care of her current psychologist, or how much she's improved(if at all?) since seeing him/her, but it sounds as if she could benefit from a finding new one.