Sister in law PRINCESS.

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Sister in law PRINCESS.
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Sun, 03-06-2011 - 7:44pm

My brothers wife is the type who has to keep up with the Joneses. The latest car, the best address, the gadgets etc.

When they got married, we gave them very nice engagement presents and weddings presents, and we invited them over quite a lot and they would happily come over and spend time here. We asked them once to come an bbsit our kids when we went to a concert, but I had made sure all the dinner was made and all they had to do was eat dinner with the kids. My kids at the time were 14, 13 and 11 so they were not babies, and could have stayed home alone, but I though they would want to come and be with the kids. Anyway, they ate and as soon as dinner was over, they left - so they were here for anout an hour and a

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 7:55pm

I can relate. You were close to your brother? My brother's not married yet, but I can see trouble on the horizon.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 8:32pm

How about arranging a meeting of just you and your brother and asking him what's going on? Tell him that you miss seeing him and being a part of his life. See if there was some specific incident that she or they felt insulted or something or if he can explain things.

Since SIL is so witchy to you then maybe its just as well that you're not thrown together with her very often. Maybe you could arrange for your brother and nephew to come to your home sometimes.

He does have a choice in this. If she won't allow it and he complies with her, then you may need to accept that your brother doesn't mind being dictated to by his wife and that the situation won't be changing.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 8:41pm

You're probably not going to love my reply, but here goes... I don't think this problem is really with your SIL.

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Registered: 02-04-2010
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 9:40pm

Thanks everyone for your replies. It really helps to have others shed light here.

I know that the last writer is 100% spot on - I also wouldnt want people in my home if I dont like them. Its always awkward. Its the fact that we were close and now nothing. He never phones or makes an enquiry about me or the kids and when he has, its a duty call.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 7:35am

I agree that she should talk to her brother.

And yes, his life has changed drastically in the last few years, but he/they are able to entertain the other brother and friends, and have all but announced that they are shutting out this sister.

I do think the princess sis-in-law feels threatened by the relationship between the brother and OP, for whatever reason, and that might play into some of the dynamic that is going on.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 7:46am

Totally agree with this.

I also love the princess title - it belongs to my brother's wife too.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 10:57am

LOL.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 12:14pm

I agree with the others. Have a chat with your brother. She may be a princess and threatened by your relationship with your brother, but it is really your brother's responibility to keep relations going with his family. If he chooses not to, it is on him, not her.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 4:15pm

I come at this from a different perspective.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 5:23pm

I don't know that I agree with that.

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