sister in law trouble..........

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Registered: 01-04-2002
sister in law trouble..........
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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 5:49pm
My father in law died recently & my husbands oldest sister has been causing all sorts of drama with the family. She got all of there fathers possessions & belongings & didn't share anything with the other siblings. Plus there was no will. She talks bad about others behind there backs & when you confront her she denies everything & acts innocent. She seems to make up things that arent true. We also had to change our phone # so she wont call us & harrass us anymore. My husband wants her out of his life which he told her because he's tired of the drama. Now shes telling other family members shes suicidial & we don't believe her. We think it's an act for attention. People normally don't tell anyone about it. They never got along as kids & they don't get along now either. My husband seems to like it better without her around. We just want it to end & live our life in peace.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 2:09pm
Avoiding her is the best thing to do, but honestly you cannot do it forever. Suicide is NOT a term that you should throw around at your disgression. That is childish, and yes, it sounds like a bid for attention. Perhaps this is how she is dealing with her father's death. She needs to handle it in a more mature manner. But if shes just going to make it harder for everyone to communicate with her, then she needs to deal with it alone. As for the possessions, why cant you divide them equally amongst the family? Thats usually what you do, isn't it?

Someone needs to confront this woman about her behavior. Its been my experience that some people HAVE to have drama in their lives to function. It stems from insecurities.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Take care.
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Registered: 01-04-2002
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 2:44pm
Most families would devide things up evenly but she wasnt like that about it. She called her fathers former g/f that he lived with for 24 years & demanded her fathers things & she even went over there to her house & did this to. The g/f gave the stuff to my husband & he didn't tell her the second we got the stuff & she went completely crazy ! We gave her all the stuff to shut her up & not give her a reason to come back.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 5:25pm
If thats what you have to do to shut her up, I say go for it. But since these items are of sentimental value (Im assuming) then she shouldnt be so greedy - he was your DH's father just as much as hers, right? Thats so unfair (in my eyes). But if thats what it takes to appease her and keep her drama away, I guess that will have to slide.
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Registered: 01-04-2002
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 6:32pm
This may seem like a dumb question but what does DH mean?
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Registered: 08-14-2002
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 8:53pm
DH = dear (or darn) husband. Here's a link to IVillage (and internet) abbreviations you'll run into:

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happy posting!

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 7:29am
While she may very well be using suicide as an attention getter, you cannot dismiss it. I would call the police/health department and tell them. They may come get her and lock her up for a short time to see if she is OK.

Think of it as a bonus, at the best she will get some help. At the worst, she will be out of your hair for a few days!

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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:06pm
We found out last night from one of the other sisters that she did indeed use that suicide attempt to get my husband to call her. Shes fine nothing is really wrong with her. My husband wont give into her manipualtions & lies. She does need to be locked up but we don't want to be the ones to put her there.