Sister playing games

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Sister playing games
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Fri, 11-09-2012 - 10:17pm

 

I had a fight with my sister because she is a drama queen and was calling me every day to listen to drama. Even though I try to change the subject, she goes back to drama again.

I told her “We can talk about other topics” But she is not interested in that. I got mad with her one day, unfortunately I shouted to her. Then she got mad and shouted to me for several phone calls.

I know she is depressed, but I`m also struggling with some issues and she seems to don´t want or is unable to get better.

She tried to make pace with me and now that “the peace” has been established. She doesn´t call, if I call her she says she has called but doesn´t leave a message and then she starts complaining again. Or she says “I haven´t called you, because to tell you just about problems, no”.

I have the feeling that this is a kind of trap. Like saying “If you want to talk with me, you have to listen to drama”.

 

Any thoughts?

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Sat, 11-17-2012 - 12:24pm

Thanks Ukgirl82, for your reply. My concern is that, I have the feeling that she is playing a phicological game with me. I don´t mind listening to her drama but once in while, not in every call. I´m more centered in ways to make changes in our lives to get better. But she seems to be unable to relate with me in a more healthy.

So, she doesn´t call and when I call (as I´m supposed to be the one in need because I made the call) then she starts complaining. I have the feeling that she is trying to caught me in a kind of spiderwave wre I don´t want to be.

 

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 5:38am

Perhaps it should not be so much about listening to drama as it should be about being supportive. But it's understandable if you are not able to provide that support right now, especially when it seems like a one way street with her and she is not supportive in return. I would simply tell her that - without anger, just tell her that while you wish you could be more supportive, you've got your own issues going on right now too and you also need someone who will listen to your troubles and be supportive but you're not getting that from her so maybe you should both seek support elsewhere.