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|Sun, 08-31-2003 - 11:09am|
Now, her daughter and her are both causing family problems. My neice, who is 6, is very spoiled. She is VERY hyper and very difficult to be around. When my 2 child started school, things got even worse and my daughter did not want to play with my neice very often. she had made friends with other children on the street who were in school with her. Every time, I have contact with my neice, she runs and tells my sister that I said something mean, or was ugly to her. None of which is true. My sister fley off the handle when my neice called and wanted to speak with my daughter and i told her that she was not here right now, but that she had gone to Chuck E. Cheese. My sister said that I told her that to hurt her feelings and said that I was "cold hearted" for hurting her like that.
I just do not have the time for this type of drama. I am the mother of a 12 yo. daughter, 7 yo. daughter, 4 yo. son, and 18 month old daughter. I run a business from home and have a high maintenance husband. Just recently, I saw my neice outside our house and she was sitting in our yard screaming crying because my daughter did not want to play with her and went to a neighbor's house. I went outside and told my neice that she would have to stop screaming or go home. She did go home and told my sister that I "made" her leave. My sister calls me screaming for being "mean" and when I walked down the street to her house to deal with this, her and her husband came outside and were screaming, cursing, and in my face about what a pathetic aunt I am becuase I do not treat my neice like I should, I don't take her anywhere and I don't invite her to spend the night very often. During all of this they were going on and on about how they have taken my daughter places with them and let her spend the night several times. I tried to explain to them that I have my hands full with 4 kids, working at home, and a husband who works 3rd shift and sleeps during day. I should also state that they have never made an attempt to "take" any of my other children anywhere and rarely even speaks to them.
I am tired of having to explain that 4 children are quite consuming and that inviting one more along to the movies or McDonald's is just too much. My sister has no concept of being the mother in a large family and refuses to see that I am not being "mean". She is stuck up, has looked down to the fact that I stay at home, and is very ugly when she is crossed. At this time, we are not speaking due to the most recent incident with her and her husband. As far as my husband is concerned, they can just stay down at their house with their daughter and we will stay here.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.