Sister's Actions - Let's call a Spade a Spade!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sister's Actions - Let's call a Spade a Spade!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wed, 08-03-2011 - 12:21pm

My sister, brother and I live in separate parts of the country.

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Registered: 07-29-2002

Wow!

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Actually, I've pretty much known for awhile now that she's giving my brother and sister money. Whenever I've had to reconcile her written check register, there's transactions with just a check number and the description just has her name on it.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I'd snoop and see if she's giving them that much money every month.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I know how you feel (oh boy, do I know), but if they're taking serious advantage (and $36,000 in one month indicates it's so), then you might need to know and eventually take action.

My parents bought land and/or homes for my 3 drug addict siblings. Nada for myself or my other brother. Sure it's their money, but it didn't help our relationship any. In fact, I consider my parents to be the biggest fools ever. I have no respect for them due to mostly how they treat them vs. us, all our lives. The oldest is 54, the youngest 39.

For example, DH and I had saved $10,500 for a down payment on our home. We needed to borrow $1500 to make 12.. My father yelled at me he was too broke. I found out later he'd just bought my youngest sister, the meth addict/stripper/prostitute (who lost custody of both her kids) a brick home in a nice little subdivision.

My other brother was given a home and 6 acres WHILE in prison doing 26 years for meth (he's still there). My other sister was given a home and would have inherited somewhere around 15-20 acres it sat on, but she died from an accidental fire when she passed out on alcohol and barbituates. My father is selling off the land my other brother and I were promised. All my mom has to say about why I'm treated so differently is that I don't kiss his a** like the others. My other brother refuses to speak to them at all, and hasn't in years. Money can sure screw up a family.

Sorry, but your post is bringing back bad memories for me!

 

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Registered: 07-29-2011

Haaaaaa..... I'd love to snoop but decided against it.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I guess I misunderstood. I thought you had a POA, but after re-reading it appears you don't.

Does your mother have all her mental faculties?

 

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Registered: 03-28-2010

isn't it sad that the trust worthy, responsible kids always get screwed?! And the irresponsible one's just get money handed to them for 'this' and 'that'?

your sis, is acting very childish & if she wants to act that way, yes, she is a grown woman, but she should keep you out of 'the loop'.

People are who they are, if she is going to act like a child and selfish enough to only think of her needs and not of others, then I would 'have it out' with her and if she doesn't understand, then just let it be...but distance yourself.

Life is way to short for me, to be bothered by other selfish people, whether they are family or not....I surround myself, with caring, genuine people, only!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 02-14-2004

Oh my!

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Registered: 02-14-2004

I'd snoop too in that situation.

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Registered: 07-29-2011

We do have a POA in place.