My sister is due in October.
That is a tough one.
I'd be inclined to send a gift, like a small keepsake.
I have not really spoken to my Mom about my sister's pregnancy, other than to congratulate my parents and that being grandparents will be exciting [I have 3 step-grandkids].
Are you already invited to a baby shower? Who will host it? Any way, I would give a gift for the baby, either in a baby shower or send it to her place with your mom. That won´t change your relationship with her, but you can continue trying to have a detached,
I have not been invited as of yet to attend a baby shower for my sister.
If you're invited to a baby shower, I'd send a gift to your sister.
>>I would probably be overly involved (if I had more than one child) because of how my parents handled things.
Hmmmm...it seems my prevous message didn't make it through cyberspace!
What I said was I find it interesting how the pendulum goes back and forth from generation to generation.
>>>I wouldn't be able to help myself, I don't think.
Oh I totally understand.