Sister's baby shower gift....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2001
Sister's baby shower gift....
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Sun, 07-03-2011 - 7:43pm

My sister is due in October.

CL for 11 years

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 12:39pm

When/If you receive a birth announcement or phone call of the birth, send a congratulations card to her. That is all that you need to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2011
Tue, 07-26-2011 - 8:53pm

Well I'm sorry to hear that you aren't close to your sister. I don't now what that's like since I'm really close with my sibling. I feel like you have given the olive branch to her and she probably is so self-involved she doesn't realise the damage that's being caused. But if she's said things like she doesn't want you in her life... I would want to back away from her as well. I'm guessin she contacted you about the news. So you can send a message back saying you are happy for her. I wouldn't necessarily send a gift right away. It's one thing if she invites you to visit or for a baby shower but I wouldn't send anything at the moment. Wait until the child is born. Then send a small card & gift. I mean family can get annoying but you know if you don't send a gift & a card she'll use it against you for life saying you never acknowledged the child. Hopefully the child & being a mother will soften her? I'm assumin it is her first kid.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:17pm

>>>I wouldn't be able to help myself, I don't think.

Oh I totally understand.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 1:43pm
I wouldn't be able to help myself, I don't think.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 1:03pm

Hmmmm...it seems my prevous message didn't make it through cyberspace!

What I said was I find it interesting how the pendulum goes back and forth from generation to generation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 12:57pm

>>I would probably be overly involved (if I had more than one child) because of how my parents handled things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 8:58am
Parents not getting involved in their kids' arguments is probably the best thing for most... but it sure wasn't in my family's case. My parents once refused to get involved in something serious between my oldest brother and a sister (before she was a drug addict.) It ended in someone else's death, someone I liked very much.

I would probably be overly involved (if I had more than one child) because of how my parents handled things.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 8:33am

If you're invited to a baby shower, I'd send a gift to your sister.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2001
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 1:20am

I have not been invited as of yet to attend a baby shower for my sister.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Sun, 07-03-2011 - 11:08pm

Are you already invited to a baby shower? Who will host it? Any way, I would give a gift for the baby, either in a baby shower or send it to her place with your mom. That won´t change your relationship with her, but you can continue trying to have a detached,

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