Sisters but no longer friends

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Registered: 07-30-2011
Sisters but no longer friends
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Sat, 07-30-2011 - 10:52am

I thought I would post here because I am having a very difficult time with this situation and I am hoping that you all don't mind my venting :). My sister and I were very close but through the years I have felt somewhat used at times.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 07-31-2011 - 9:32am

Big Hugs,

Im sorry to hear that your sister is not willing to open up and communicate more productively.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 7:58pm

"How could she just ignore me and go on with her life like nothing is missing while I miss her very much.

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Registered: 07-29-2011
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 12:39pm

Big Hugs from me also!

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 2:31pm
<< Im sorry to hear that your sister is not willing to open up and communicate more productively. >>

My first thought was, "what, is she twelve?"

Sorry Windblown. Some of us just don't have sisters that we can be close to....


 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 2:32pm
<< Some people hold grudges for a long time and become devoted to holding the grudge long after most people would normally get over a slight or offense.>>>

Good way to put it.

 

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 3:03pm
First of all, I cannot stand all of the mean, hurtful things that you said about yourself!!! CUT THAT OUT!!!!! You sound like a lovely person with a lot to offer, just be/c your sister isn't intereseted in a "Hallmark" sort of relationship with you...doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you! As a matter of fact, sounds like there's something wrong with sis!!!! Remember....in order to be loved....you have love yourself!!!!!


Anyway, I have 2 sisters....and neither of them will talk to me. It was over something very trivial, petty & foolish. I wouldn't do what they wanted me to do, so they decided to give me the silent treatment. This is going on 4+ years. I refuse to beg & plead with them to be my sisters....if this is how they're going to behave....so be it!!! Yes it hurts me & yes I miss them....but I refuse to be held emotional hostage by them & their irrational demands! I decided that I deserved to be treated better than they were treating me and just let go of them....


I think you deserve better than your sister is treating you... Good luck!!!