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|Sat, 12-10-2011 - 10:33am|
My mother can be a real witch but she is very clever. Rarely shows this side of herself to anyone but stepdad & myself. I've been treating her like a child and ignore her bad behaviour telling her that once she treats me with respect, stops yelling at me, etc. then I will communicate with her. Won't go through it all but this works for a bit then it starts over again & I stop seeing/talking with her. She has been recently latching on to DH, DS & DD to do her bidding instead. While they are aware of my description of her behaviour, they have rarely seen it themselves & sometimes I sense they feel I'm overly sensitive. I don't deny this but I have 55 yrs of this woman & know how she loves to manipulate things. So onto my happy story.
Mom turned 77 last Tues, she isn't in the best of health but last time we were together she started yelling at me about what a terrible daughter I am and how I never do anything for her. Just take my word for the fact, that I'm an only child & do way too much for her. So I'm just going to call & wish her a happy birthday but DH says no, we need to take her out to celebrate and DD says, you must buy her a present. So in the interest of immediate family harmony. I agree. So call, wish her happy birthday & make arrangements to take her out for lunch today. She is thrilled, says she can't wait.
I wrap the gift last night that DD picked up since I have been sick with pneumonia for 2 wks. DH sees that Mom had called very early this morning. We have to keep the phone off in our room as she will call at very strange times. I call her back knowing exactly what I was going to hear. She called because she was thinking about it and it's just such a lot of effort for me/DH to come to take her out and she doesn't want to burden us with this, blah, blah, blah. So I'm thinking this is one of 2 things either she wants to guilt me into denying her statements so that she can demand more or she has a better offer. I finally decide to say that it's not a problem, it's a nice day & she is only an hr away. But nope, this is just too much for us to have to do with Xmas coming up, my DS coming home from university, work, etc.. So I know it's that she has a better offer and just drop it. She babbles on a bit more about her life, says nothing about stepdad's health which isn't good or anything like wow, you are coughing a lot - are you feeling any better. As she wraps up the call, she slips and mentions how excited she is to be going out with friends today for a concert. BINGO! I got dumped for a better offer. Once this used to bother me, not anymore. I'm feeling like I got a reward!