somethings gotta give FML

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Registered: 11-23-2007
somethings gotta give FML
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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 1:57am

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Wed, 08-18-2010 - 9:26am

My initial response is that you appear to be depressed or, at the very least, discontent in your own life and are blaming others for your own unhappiness.

So, your in-laws are "crazy". You didn't say that they are meddlesome, mean or controlling so how does them being "crazy" affect your ability to be happy?

You say you have a loving mother but she annoys you. Again, it seems that the "problem" stems from you.

As far as your wedding party forgetting your anniversary, give me a break! My dear son was married a year ago & I had to look at the calendar this year to check the exact date (couldn't remember if it was the 20th or 21st of June). To allow something so insignificant as that to cause you distress is kinda petty.

I think you're a bit off-base being angry about your friend's decision to keep news of her pregnancy to herself. She does not owe it to you (or anyone else) to announce something so personal until she is ready. No matter how close you may be, her pregnancy is HERS, not yours, and has nothing to do with you.

Hating your job isn't exactly unheard of or the end of the world. If you don't like it, find one that you do like. In the meantime, try to appreciate the fact that you HAVE one and know that it's much easier (and less stressful) to land a new one when you are already employed.

I have to say that I find it somewhat odd that although you include being married 5 yrs in your list of "good" things, you omitted any specific mention of your husband in that list yet you go on to say that he thinks he is "always so done hard by" (not quite sure I know what that means). I'm assuming that he is unhappy as well but the cause of his negativity is unclear--does he feel that YOU are the cause or is he unhappy overall? More importantly, how do you feel about him--not being married, but HIM?

It seems that you are grasping for straws looking for reasons to explain why you are unhappy because you are either unaware of or avoiding the real cause. On the flip side, your own unhappiness could be affecting those around you and in how they respond toward you.

My suggestion would be to find a therapist or counselor to help you find the reason(s) that you are unhappy. As I said before, perhaps you are suffering from clinical depression...or maybe there is something that you are unwilling or unable to admit (even to yourself) that is at the root of the problem. A professional could help you realize and understand as well as guide you in resolving the issues.

Good luck to you.

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Wed, 08-18-2010 - 12:58pm

Danni,


Sorry you deleted your post. If you want some help with these issues, you should really come back and re-post. Some of the answers you recieve here, may not be what you want to hear, but everyone here has great imput with a lot of good ideas to help you get through your problems.


It seems you have a lot of things you're unhappy about, but you need to address one issue at a time. Now, I said address. Not solve or fix, because some problems can't be solved or fixed. We can't

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 08-18-2010 - 1:08pm

I'm sorry that you felt the need to delete your post before some of us got a chance to read it.


We are a support board, and you can't always judge how the thread will go by one poster.

 

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Registered: 11-23-2007
Wed, 08-18-2010 - 1:30pm

I deleted the post because looking back i think I should have taken more time to include more details lol .


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Registered: 06-26-2006
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 12:44pm

Is there any way you can afford to be a SAHM for awhile? Raising kids and working at a job can be very stressful. I know a lot of people who are working full time jobs, while raising kids and I don't know how they do it. You and your DH need to sit down, go over all your finances and try to come up with a budget or other ways to save money to make staying at home possible.


If you find you need to work, there are a

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 1:07pm

Ok, I'm glad you came back, and deleted for a different purpose.


I understand about not having the time, nor inclination, to include every other thing that would more explain some things... it gets tiring!


I don't know what to tell you, but we are here to listen, and you are welcome to vent away....


One question, though... your friend lied to you when you asked her if she was pregnant?