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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 11:38pm

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 12:38am

Oh so sorry!

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 1:43am

Sorry that you're in this crummy situation. Hopefully the older one will get into rehab soon. Is the younger one there until May or whenever the school year ends?

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 3:29am

Sorry to hear you are going through this type of situation, been there done that.

"He looks WAY too comfortable in our home". What I learned

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 11:58am

Hugs,

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 3:26pm
I am curious to know what your dh's take on all this is. Does he let them call the shots OR are there expectations?

If he's just letting them use your place as a flop house until something changes....then I'm with you, their stay should be limited, VERY limited!

But if you & your dh gave them expectations, and they're being respectful & doing what is asked of them....then I think you have to give it a little bit of time. Simply be/c you would want your dh to be as understanding if the shoe were on the other foot, and a couple of your kids moved into the basement KWIM?!

Good luck.... I hope you get things all worked out soon!




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Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 01-15-2012 - 11:24am

Yes...there are limits.

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 01-15-2012 - 11:36am

I'm totally going to do that.

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 01-15-2012 - 11:38am

Thanks for sharing your experience with me!

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 4:22pm
If the 28 yo has PTSD severe enough that he is getting 70% medical retirement. Then he is in pretty bad shape.

Is it just Ptsd, or is there more to his diagnosis like traumatic brain injury?

I can see your point in that addiction is probably inherited. BUT given that he also has PTSD, you are also now having to add to the equation a permanently altered brain and permanent compromised mental health.

To be completely honest. Your SS is going to need more help and support than just a ride to the VA for a stint in rehab.

Is there a way you or your Dh could take some time and sit down with him and VA Dr and discuss what options he has. And hopefully get a strong understanding of his condition. The military does hand out 70% medical retirement without a serious diagnosis.
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 4:36pm
Did you mean to say the military "doesn't" hand out 70% medical retirement without a serious diagnosis?

I figured you did, but I know little to nothing about the military......

 

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