stepkids

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stepkids
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 11:38pm

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 6:24pm
You are correct. Sorry Im mobile. Typing is difficult.


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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 5:50pm

I didn't read the other responses so sorry fi this is a repeat....

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 9:54pm

I don't think the OP wants a divorce, or a high school dropout.

I don't think most people would starve their child out of their home in his senior year of high school.

 

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 10:23am

I totally hear you. Yes..

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 10:43am

All good suggestions, but DSS28 is now gone, probably not to be coming back and we want to just get DSS19 through high school.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 5:51pm
Were you aware of all of this when u dated your DH?? I'm curious because I've recently ended a serious relationship with a man with kid issues. I felt nothing would change and I don't want to live with that type of drama. Some people questioned my decision but I stand strong that unhealthy stepchildren are a deal breaker. (I love this man beyond the moon!!)
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Thu, 01-19-2012 - 7:57am

The first year of our relationship was stress free.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 9:04am
I don't have children of my own and I have some health issues that factored into the decision. Not defending myself because I stand by my strong convictions that sometimes no matter how much you love someone love simply isn't enough. I know that down the line I would have begun to recent my ex for allowing his children to behave in the matter in which they do. As far as us non Mothers not understanding I disagree....I could never ever know what it's like BUT I know enough to realize that the first priority of all parents are their children and I've always known that going into a relationship with a man with children that they always came first. Which is why I ended my relationship because the biggest issue with my exes kids is they're never going to move away and they both weigh over 400 lbs and growing because they all continue to eat anything and everything. I love and respect him enough to know it would break his heart to make the decision to force them out into the wide wide wonderful world where they belong.

Thanks for your resoonse. Every situation is different.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 11:33am
There is a lot less you would tolerate when it isnt your kid that is causing the problems. I think that can be said for almost anyone regardless of whether or not they have kids of their own. The benefit to this is you dont have the parental blinders and can see a different perspective. When it comes to your own kid, there is a level of personal responsibility,since it was your actions that brought tyem into this world.

Hugs to you and your Dh. I can imagine this is a tough call for him to make and for you to experience.
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Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:07pm

Perfectly said.