stepkids

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 11:38pm

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 10:22am
How I know it's bad is what I've seen in his face as he talks about them. I didn't have to meet them to know.

San
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 7:29am

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 7:08pm

Then he's going to be one lonely man because I doubt many women would put up with it.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 6:27pm
It's hard for everyone. I've never met his kids because quite frankly they scare me. There's no place for me there and he doesn't force it so there is.

San
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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 2:34pm

That's really sad.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 7:44am
Yes 400 plus pounds...actually the oldest is also 6'8" and sits in his room all day...he's 26. The youngest one is 22 and is angry...very angry because when my ex's wife left him she left the kids too. It's definitely a Jerry Springer episiode. The youngest is so angry he doesn't like his father dating. I've known this man since 2006 and the son has only gotten worse. my ex has said on multiple occasions that he sleeps with 1 eye open.

I know they're still young men and with the economy the way it is having children live with their parents isn't uncommon but there isn't any relief in sight. He's stuck with these boys because of the guilt he feels and the boys play on that. It's so sad....this man is the kindest man I've ever met and loved me the way no other man did...but in my case it wasn't enough.

San
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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 7:31am

400 lbs...really???

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Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:07pm

Perfectly said.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 11:33am
There is a lot less you would tolerate when it isnt your kid that is causing the problems. I think that can be said for almost anyone regardless of whether or not they have kids of their own. The benefit to this is you dont have the parental blinders and can see a different perspective. When it comes to your own kid, there is a level of personal responsibility,since it was your actions that brought tyem into this world.

Hugs to you and your Dh. I can imagine this is a tough call for him to make and for you to experience.
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Thu, 01-19-2012 - 9:04am
I don't have children of my own and I have some health issues that factored into the decision. Not defending myself because I stand by my strong convictions that sometimes no matter how much you love someone love simply isn't enough. I know that down the line I would have begun to recent my ex for allowing his children to behave in the matter in which they do. As far as us non Mothers not understanding I disagree....I could never ever know what it's like BUT I know enough to realize that the first priority of all parents are their children and I've always known that going into a relationship with a man with children that they always came first. Which is why I ended my relationship because the biggest issue with my exes kids is they're never going to move away and they both weigh over 400 lbs and growing because they all continue to eat anything and everything. I love and respect him enough to know it would break his heart to make the decision to force them out into the wide wide wonderful world where they belong.

Thanks for your resoonse. Every situation is different.

San

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