Thank you...

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Thank you...
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 12:21am
Hello again, I really apprechiate what you all think. I love hearing it, even if it is negative, it is great to hear you all talk. I haven't told them yet, but I will and of course, I will keep you informed.

I want to let you all know that, despite what you think, that he is NOT using me. I don't even know why he wants to be with me. I asked him that today too. He simply replied: Because I do. Then he smiled at me. Thanks again everyone, please, more comments and suggestions. Please. Thanks!!!!!!!

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Registered: 06-02-2003
In reply to: lola93
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 1:13am
Hi! I am a little bit closer to your age (18) and I just wanted to give my 2 cents here again too. I must say to me it does sound like your bf has good intentions and is not using you. BUT I think being so young you need to be careful. I sometimes make the same mistake you COULD be making, of thinking yeah yeah...I am sooo mature for my age...I can handle anything...but then you can't always be strong, sometimes you aren't because lets face it we all have growing up to do, even 20, 30...every age! Anyway I think you are doing the right thing if you tell your parents and try to go into this with the right idea, like being straightforward instead of sneaky. I also think its a good sign you know his parents and they approve of the relationship. It is true tho what some others said, if you 2 are sleeping together it might even be illegal! Yikes :-( That may seem really twisted (it kinda does) but I guess laws are there to protect people you know what I mean? So it might not seem fair but still, be careful. Also it kind of worried me when I read that you have already had a lot of problems in relationships. That just makes me think, wow, you have been thru so much for a 16 yr old, so be CAREFUL don't just grab onto the first GOOD GUY you meet, even tho he is good doesn't make him "the one". I am not tryin to be negative tho! I hope it doesn't soundlike it! Hugs, Rhiannon
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Registered: 06-07-2003
In reply to: lola93
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 12:39pm
Rhiannon is very smart, and she gives you some great advice. No one thinks this guy is using you. I am sure he thinks you are wonderful. We just want you to be careful. We all know what it is like to be in love, especially at a young age. It consumes you and gives you the most wonderful feeling in the world. Just keep in mind that you are young, and you will change a lot over the next few years. This guy may be the one for you, or he may not. At 16, you can't possibly know. Someone who is 21 is at a very different stage of life than you are now. When you are 18 or 19 and is he is 23 or 24, you will have more similar interests and be at a more similar place in life. And by the time you are 25 and he is 30, there will be practically no difference at all!

Don't hide this from your parents anymore. Get it off your chest and tell them. (BTW, I am not close to your age...I am 40, and I speak from experience! If I had stayed with my first serious boyfriend until now I think I would have killed myself...OK I am exaggerating! Seriously, I think you do change a LOT between the teen years and 25...then after that, age doesn't matter as much.)

Tracy