"Thanksgiving?"

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Registered: 04-25-2003
"Thanksgiving?"
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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 2:56pm
Soon this holiday will be here, and I am not looking forward to it, as usual. In fact, I would rather be alone than deal with the usual sarcastic digs, disagreeable cracks boring conversation, etc that go on in my very small group. This is the one holiday you are not supposed to complain about, though, since the idea is to show gratitude...hence the name. Well, I will anyway.

Does anyone know how to answer an elderly parent who is always very sarcastic, a know it all and "I told you so". Who tends to disagree constantly with even innocent comments, I suppose to put down those around. Sometimes I can't even eat after listening to them vent at each other. If I tell them how I feel, they would just deny everything, and answer with more sarcasm. Honesty is a bad approach here.
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Registered: 06-17-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 3:19pm
Have you tried cracking jokes? Try to entertain yourself, and perhaps a few others.

Or you can try indifference. If someone annoys you say, "Wow that was some great sarcasm, can we eat dinner now?" Some people will find this hilarious, others won't.

I have problems with my mom and sister ganging up on me and what ususally works for me is, "can we drop this subject and have a nice meal now?"

My family loved this one, "we are all alpha females here so we will never agree on this."

good luck