Thanksgiving/Sister & Brother

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thanksgiving/Sister & Brother
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Fri, 06-20-2003 - 3:24pm
These days I'm feeling like an orphan. Both of my parents are dead. My sister and brother are both married with children. I'm single. My birthday is around Thanksgiving. My sister and her family are going to California to visit my brother over the holiday. An invitation wasn't extended to me. I don't expect much from my brother, because we were never close. Another problem is, his wife isn't very friendly. On the other hand, I always thought my sister and I were close. Right now, I'm feeling hurt and disappointed. What I should do is just my own plans for the holidays and forget about my siblings?
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 10:12am
Well here is my opinion...... I think you should get some friends together and plan a big feast at one of you all's home. I know it will not take away the feelings of hurt that your family didn't invite you , but at least you would be around people who care for you. Have you thought that maybe they thought it was too early for your invite? You said the others have children? If so planning early for us with kiddos is a must, so maybe they just haven't told you yet? Also like I said Thanksgiving is a long way off things could change in no time and also if they don't it gives you some months to start thinking of other alternatives. I think I would rather know ahead of time to start making other plans and have them set in stone. I hope things work out for ya the way you feel that is best. Please let us know if anything changes. Please feel free to post we are always hear to lend a cyber shoulder....Until then Michelle
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Registered: 06-07-2003
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 4:42pm
Michelle had a great suggestion! Getting together with friends who also are "orphans" would be a fun way to enjoy Thanksgiving, and there would be none of that family strife. I used to work with a couple who would invite all their co-workers who had nowhere to go on Thanksgiving to their house. Everyone always had fun at these parties, and sometimes I wished I could go instead of spending the holiday with family! Maybe you could invite some others who have nowhere to go to your house.

If you really feel being with your family is important, you could ask your sister to contact your brother and tell him you'd really like to come. Maybe they thought you wouldn't want to come to a family-oriented gathering with a bunch of kids! You never know until you ask.

Good luck!

Tracy

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Sun, 06-22-2003 - 11:21am
First off, I am sorry that you're feeling sad :-( Your post made me sad, because you sound so lonely, I just wish I could invite you to MY house for Thanksgiving ;-) I am sure you will be fine though. That was very insensitive of your siblings not to invite you too, especially under the circumstances. Have you said anything to your sister about it? Maybe she would help you in some way, either including you or at least it would let her know how you feel left out. MAYBE your bro and sis, being married with kids and all, think that you are living an exciting single life too busy to bother with visiting with a bunch of married w/ kids people...it's possible. I know this is totally not the same, but a few times I have felt left out when my aunt invited my younger cousins to go places (the lake, movies, golfing, etc) in a big group...just because they are all around 13-16, and I am 18 and have a job and go to college, it is automatically assumed that I think I am "ABOVE" my cousins and sister and have soooo many exciting plans every night, when really I sometimes was just sitting at home on my butt when they were out having fun. So finally I said something and now I go too, when I'm free! Just a thought! Hugs, Rhiannon
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-22-2003 - 5:20pm
Thank you for all of your support. I've just very disappointed in my brother and sister. I really doubt they think I'm living a wild single life. I may just plan a great trip over the holiday!