theiving relatives

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Registered: 06-18-2003
theiving relatives
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Wed, 06-18-2003 - 2:21pm
hello all!

i have 2 nephews, ages 12 and 16, and the past couple of times they have visited me, they have stolen things from my home. the items weren't that important or of great financial value but still--they were mine. the first time this happened, i told their father but the next time i didn't say anything. should i have? what would be the best way to handle this situation? i don't want my brother to feel unwelcome in my home but i'm tired of his theiving brats!

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Registered: 06-07-2003
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 7:07pm
My goodness! Yes, you definitely should tell their father immediately. He should know the paths these two are taking. If he doesn't stop them NOW, they are going to end up in jail. If I were you, I'd tell your brother not to bring his kids over to your house until he has told them what they are doing is wrong and ILLEGAL, and if they do it again they will be severely punished. Tell him TODAY!! These are very misguided boys.
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Registered: 04-05-2003
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 9:14pm
i have a step grandson that is 9 years old, in my mind old enough to know better. Every single time he came over in the past he took somethjing, he even got to the point where he would go to the bathroom and rummage around, he took anything from money to bandages! If he was cioming over I had to hide things. I finally had enough of it and told my son and his wife, of course she did not believe it.

Now, when and if he comes over he is only allowed in the room I am in. I watch him like a hawk. His mother is finally aware that he steals, he took some money at his aunts house and was caught red handed.

Tell thier Dad, if he gets mad....so what! Let them know you have caught on to their ways and will be keeping an eye on them from now on. They are old enough to know what they are doing and are old enough to face the consequences of their actions.

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Wed, 06-18-2003 - 11:55pm
I agree, they are definitely old enough to know better, it's not like they are toddlers!!! So what if their dad gets mad...he should get mad at THEM, not you! I do agree they could wind up in jail, I mean, I know it is BAD wrong to steal from stores but in my personal opinion it is even WORSE to steal from your relatives/people you know, that is lowest of the low. I would totally say something and SOON! Rhiannon
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Registered: 06-18-2003
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 8:56am
thanks all for the advice...it's hard when it is a family member doing wrong.