They have to butt in and I don’t like it.

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Registered: 08-27-2001
They have to butt in and I don’t like it.
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:20pm

I live with my parents and brother and im not a kid anymore but at my house my dad and brother are the ones who always start question me about things I do because I like them. My mom is not like that. For instance, if for some reason I like to dress in some way (not in a slutty manner they mean beacue of the type of clothes that don’t match together), that my dad and bro believe I will see as a fool, they say: Don’t wear that you will look ridiculous, or that thing does not look good on you,, change it. Or another thing if for instance I like to watch a TV series the same episodes over and over again because I like it they question, why, you already seen it, change the channel. Or some of these days I was surfing on the net and I was seeing a website of an actor I fond very handsome and I like some of his movies, maybe I copy a photo of him and put it on one of my files computer.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 5:51am
How do you respond when they say these things to you? Have you talked to your mom about how it makes you feel and if so, is she understanding? Has she ever said something to them about it?

I would say something to them like "I'd really appreciate it if you would stop criticizing me all the time, it really hurts my feelings. I know you don't understand the things I like but I'm not going to stop liking them just because you tell me to."

If that doesn't get through to them, I suggest you talk to your mother and the four of you sit down and discuss it further. Maybe if they see that you're not the only one who feels they are being too critical and hurtful, they will back off.

If that doesn't work or is not an option, I think you need to start doing whatever you can to make it possible to move out. Do you have a job? Do you have a friend you could get a place with?
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 6:44am
Maru, are you the poster with the really scary brother?

Is there hope that you can move out in the near future?

 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 8:20pm

If you are out of high school you are always free to move out and pay your own way in life.