Tired... of Family GOSSIP!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Tired... of Family GOSSIP!
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Tue, 11-16-2010 - 8:58am

Good Morning Everybody :smileytongue:

I have a dilemna....

I am so close to my cousin (almost like a sister) and she has been going through a rough time in the last year.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 9:28am

Are you still working for them?

 

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 10:50am

Hi,

I learned the hard way not to be ANYone's "rescuer" regardless of what was going on in their lives. I used to think I had to offer advice (and then I expected them to take it) to everyone who asked. So here's my hard-earned two-cent advice:

1)STOP working for your cousin and her boyfriend. The extra money you earn isn't worth the hassle. Get a job delivering pizzas or get on board at a retailer for the holiday shopping season. Next year, plan a head of holiday expenses by setting aside a little money every paycheck so you don't have to make gift spending a crisis event.

2)RESIGN

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 10:59am

They originally only wanted to pay me $50.00 per venue... I was like for 6 hours worth of work.. the least you are gonna give me is $100.00!

Thanks for the advice... I do not think I should work with her anymore (under these conditions). It is so frustrating and I feel that if something occurs I have to protect her and if she can not follow what I am asking of her then I can not work with her anymore!

I just needed to hear someone else tell me this because I was feeling like I should not do this anymore anyways!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:01am
ITA. Great post.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:06am

OMG.........

Thanks so much... You have touched so many things that I been feeling and it truly helps not to be feeling like there is someithing wrong with me for feeling these ways that you described to a tee.... Thanks for all your incite and breaking it down the way you did.... truly!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:14am

What do you think about her going to my other family members (including my own sister) about talking about me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:21am
Oh, I'd definitely get away from working for them! You have every reason to do so. I'm glad to hear that's your plan. (sometimes you never know!)

I really liked Wisdom's advice.

So your family members told you about what she'd been saying? What, if anything, are you doing to shut down that pipeline?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:44am

My family didnt tell me ...she did! I was so annoyed and upset.... I told her find someone else to talk to when it comes to me.... They do not see that she is ever wrong...the way she tells the story makes it seem its all my fault!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 12:34pm

Personally, that would be enough for me to cut someone off completely.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 1:47pm

I think they are paying you very cheaply. It's not worth the aggravation. Is there anyway you could work the venues with someone else or by yourself? Not sure exactly what you do, but you should try to get away from them, because your reputation as a businessperson could be on the line.

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