Tired of My Sister Being Stupid and Whining To Me

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Tired of My Sister Being Stupid and Whining To Me
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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 1:39am

My siser has been married to her husband for over 20 years and during all that time I have listened to all her stories about how badly he was treating her. She left him about 15 years ago then got back with him and now she has left him again and brought a new home. My other

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Registered: 06-12-2011

You are right it's time for me to step away. This situation is causing me stress that I don't need in my life. I just have to figure out a nice way to tell her to stop confiding in me.

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Registered: 07-29-2002

There are varying degrees of DV.

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Registered: 06-12-2011

Unfortunately it's not everybody, it's just me that she tells all this stuff to. Then she asks to to not tell anyone else about it.

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Registered: 06-12-2011

You are right, because after talking to her most times I am drained and

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I've been a DV "victim". Been to the E/R a few times, had a gun stuck to my head, broken bones, broken nose, 2 muscles that never fully recovered.

I hit one with my car and stabbed another twice, and got the hell out both times within a couple of years.

Seriously weak women are one of my pet peeves. And I think some of them need to be held accountable for their actions, not blame everything on the man "manipulating" her. Women "allow" themselves to be manipulated after awhile. They know the score, they choose to do nothing.

Sorry if I sound harsh towards you, it really isn't towards you, hope you know that.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
<< In extreme cases they can even develop Stockholm Syndrome.>>

Reminds me of the woman in the newspaper yesterday. Her husband and his mistress tried to kill her 3 times. Missed her twice, but finally gut shot her the third.

She's standing by her man in court this week. LOL.

Seriously, when I read her obituary when he finally finishes her off, I'm going to laugh. No sympathy here.

 

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Registered: 06-12-2011

The weird part about is...it's her beach house she brought it on her own, but he has taken over it like he brought it and she stupidly added his name to the deed. The cruises were paid for by her and she has way more money than him. She owns

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Registered: 12-02-2008
It's a heartwrenching and difficult position to be in. I remember the struggles my friend went through. It was hard to listen and be available."


I get what you're saying. My bf was in a very abusive relationship too. I tried to help her get out....BUT...she kept going back. He was a sick bastard...and he started to scare me. He knew where I lived & that we had babies. I finally had to cut off contact with her for my own good, as well as hers. She had to learn to stand on her own & walk away. OP's sister is like my friend. She must learn to stand on her own 2 feet. Without her ex-husband...and without her sister....or she'll be in that emotionally crippled state FOREVER!!!!
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I forgot to add something about the woman whose husband and his mistress tried to kill her 3 times. In one of the first attempts, there was a knock on her door. When she opened it with her teenage son walking up right behind her, the guy opened fire. Missed both of them that time.

So not only was this rich lawyer willing to kill his wife to keep from divorcing and losing money, he showed no regard with whether or not his own kids were killed in the process. The wife has no sense, but I hope the kids are out of there now.

I'd like to shake that woman, then throw her down some stairs.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
When it comes to violent men, the woman's best friend is killed along with her, more times than we want to think about.

The worst in an area where I lived (not here).. the guy drove up behind his woman and her best friend, and their two kids in a car. He pushed them onto the tracks of an oncoming train, killing them all. Even his own child.

You were absolutely right to cut your friend off when you and your family might be in danger.