Tired of My Sister Being Stupid and Whining To Me

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Tired of My Sister Being Stupid and Whining To Me
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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 1:39am

My siser has been married to her husband for over 20 years and during all that time I have listened to all her stories about how badly he was treating her. She left him about 15 years ago then got back with him and now she has left him again and brought a new home. My other

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Registered: 02-14-2004

Cat...have you ever thought of writing and publishing your autobiography?

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I was told that by the time I was 21. ;)

I guess it's just coincidence... but your post reminded me of my very first post here on ivillage, around 8 years ago...?

It was about a hit man and my sister.

Hopefully ivillage is saving my stories for me! Maybe I will gather them up and put it all together one day, and scare the hell out of other people, lol.

 

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Have you told your sister that the stories of verbal abuse at the hands of her ex upsets you? If you haven't, then I would. Then I would tell her that you think it's an unhealthy relationship and you think that it would be best if she moves on. From that point forward, if she approaches you regarding the aforementioned, you can say: "Sister, I love you, but I can't listen to these stories any longer. I've told you how I feel about him. You know what my advice will be, and these stories are very unsettling for me to hear."
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Registered: 12-02-2008
It wasn't an easy decision....I loved her like a sister!!! And to have to walk away from someone I knew needed help but was unable & unwilling to help herself, just tore me up!!! I felt guilty, like I'd failed her.....but in time, she left his sorry a$$ & I believe she needed to learn to stand on her own again!! I'm very proud of her today....she's an awesome woman with a lot to offer. He was scum...he talked smack about my dd at her CHRISTENING?! (like I said he was a tool)
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Registered: 06-12-2011

You are right I have enabled her all these years because I thought family should support family and to tell you the truth, time flew by. I just started realizing recently that it has been over 20 years. I thought I was being a good sister by listening to her and allowing her to vent and hoped one day she would leave him. Then the day came that she did leave him and nothing has changed. So now I feel its time to step away because I can no longer support

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