Toxic Friend

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Toxic Friend
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Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:04pm

Hello;

I need to vent about a friend of mine.. We have been friends for a few years and I now believe she has mental issues..

A little background. For the last three years she has been seeing a married man and she lives with her ex husband.. That stuff didnt concern me but all she does and did for years is complain and complain about how horrible her life is to me.. I guess because so far I am the only stupid one who puts up with her or would listen..

She works on and off due to economy and has a son.. I believe she has money and her life is not bad but she makes it bad. You know those people who constantly think they have it so bad. and she doesnt..

So yesterday it was the straw that broke the camel's back.. It is her birthday and mine this month and she had free coupons for two dinners and the restaurant is right near where I live. I thought she was going to ask me to go knowing I dont have too much money right now to eat out. No; she asks her married boyfriend whom she has been trying to break up with for a year and she hasnt seen him for a few weeks but she still manages at times

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 5:57pm

I don't think the my responses are problematic.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 1:45pm

Man what is your problem...??

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 1:54am

>>maybe I could ask the dad if I could visit the kid.

Yeah, that's what every 10 year old boy needs.....an adult female "friend".

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 1:20pm

yes and thank you everyone.. This post was not about her married boyfriend who is sep. but about her and me.

She has called alot and I wont speak to her.. Now I realize that she is not a friend. She can now vent to her boyfriend and leave me alone.. she is toxic and I realize that now. I usually give people too much benefit of doubt as I am stupid in that way.

The sorry part is that she has a ten year old son I love that child and It will be sad not to see him again. I could see him though when he moves closer to his dad. They are divorced but their house is just now selling and the kid might be moving closer to his dad. Funny thing the dad lives near me and maybe I could ask the dad if I could visit the kid. Or I will have to just never see that kid again which would break my heart. but oh; well and such is life..

thanks again everyone

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2000
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 1:04pm

Don't let some label YOU

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 8:29am

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, free!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2012
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 11:58pm
Yep, yep.

A man recently told me he was separated but living with his ex. He accidentally let it slip that they still slept in the same bed... during a story about how the bed slats broke a couple of nights ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2010
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 10:34pm

I just want to say AMEN to your second paragraph!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 1:13pm

I didn't bite your head off...I just suggested you might want to reconsider your values if you're OK with your friend dating a married man. I stand by that...dating a married man is a red flag for not being an honorable person, in other words, not the kind of person

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 12:34pm

I know that if one gets to inflexible with others moral values, you can´t

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