Uggg.....I don't know what to do anymore!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2008
Uggg.....I don't know what to do anymore!
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 3:58pm

When it comes to the point where your family takes the life outta of you.....when do you say enough is enough....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2011
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 11:23pm

It's time for you to do what you want to do. You are an adult. Your parents are actually stunting your growth and making you unhappy. You and your bf are happy. Your parents think all you should be doing is getting married and making babies. You went to school so you have an education. In this time when the economy sucks, you need to find your niche in the world. I so understand where you are coming from with your parents. Read my posting called Momma Drama. Perhaps moving

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2002
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 2:39pm

In this situation, as with a lot of families, the only thing you can change is yourself.

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 3:31pm

I'm not sure why you are questioning what you should do???

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2005
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 5:50am
So move! I think you'll find that when you get away from your family's criticisms and expectations, you will be much happier. If you move, you will be doing what YOU want to do with your life and you'll be "free" from their negativity. It's a win-win situation for you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 12:13am

>>>Where do you draw the line?

I don't think where *I draw the line is of much importance here...it's really where do YOU want to draw the line?

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:48pm

What is holding you back from moving? Is it because you don't want to make your family unhappy or because they will criticize you? It sounds like they are already doing that...

IMO they are being selfish to try to keep you in a place that doesn't have the opportunities that you want or need. Yes parents will miss their kids if they move, but really, from the time they were born we've been preparing them to go off on their own. So start making your plans to go where you want to be. It would be nice if they were supportive of you but if they don't have it in them, well, that's too bad.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 4:22pm

If you want to move away, then do it.

It sounds like your family knows nothing more than their current lifestyle, and can't imagine life beyond their property line.

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