UGH so much stuff going on this Christmas.
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UGH so much stuff going on this Christmas.
| Sat, 12-18-2010 - 12:37am |
I am currently single and after being in a serious relationship with someone in college I have just been dating recently yet I have been feeling lonely. Luckily, at least I thought I was going to spend Christmas with my dad and like always I hoped my step mom would be different. Come to find out she wasn't she was her normal rude self.
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But I don't blame you one bit for being weirded out. And to boot, she hid it from you.
I think if there's to be a talk, she should come to you instead of you approaching her. I think she owes you that much.
Sorry, girl.
I don't have any sisters but I do have one or two "choosen" sisters and I would be very upset if they ever dated an ex without d.iscussing it with me first.
She is 21 and out of all my sisters I am closest to Alex. Alex always says how I should have been her twin because Taylor and her don't really hang out or talk and she feels always more comfortable talking to me. I guess thats why I was stunned because Alex and I naturally share everything. Her and I talk on the phone every week or through skype naturally and she never mentioned that she was dating him. Its definitely weird to me.
This might sound weird, but if Alex and your are so much alike, then maybe that explains her liking the same guy as you. Like Cat says, some people don't see anything wrong with dating a friend or sister's ex, but it just seems wrong to me. Sometimes in special circumstances it can work, but for most people it causes problems. It's best not to go there.
Alex definitely broke the "girl code" and it seems to me that she should have talked to you first. Especially about him coming over for Christmas. I know she thought you'd be at your Dad's, but is is old enough to think about a possible change of plans knowing how your step mum is. Even if you ended up spending the entire holidays with your Dad, she still should have told you.
I too, think you should have a chat with her about how you feel about this whole thing. I would also suggest you wait until you've cooled off a little, so you don't explode on her. That will only make the situation worse.
She knew your sister was dating your long-time ex, right? Have you discussed it with her at all?
How are you doing now? I hope things have settled down....
But I think if she approaches her sister to discuss it, if things go badly (which imo is a good possibility with someone who didn't tell her the truth to begin with, let her be totally surprised and shell shocked....., the op will be made out to look like she's just jealous and a trouble maker.)
JMHO.
My mom talked to me the day before I arrived. She told me I could come home for Christmas if I didn't want to stay with my step mom. So my mom didn't exactly know I was coming home before I got there. She didn't know that Alex was bringing him home. All she knew is that Alex told her she was bringing someone home. I hung out with them a little which was weird.
I don't think you did anything wrong in jumping to conclusions since you saw them holding hands. I don't hold hands with my guy friends.... but maybe that's just me. I'm not a touchy-feely person.
I'm glad things worked out better too. It's no surprise you thought they were a couple because they were holding hands. She shouldn't be too offended, because all signs gave them the appearance of dating.
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