Ungrateful Stepson

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Ungrateful Stepson
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 12:57pm
I apologize for having to rant like this, but I'm soooooo upset!

For weeks, my BF, one of his son's friends, and I have been planning a surprise b-day party for SS and his best friend. We spent a good bit on decorations, cake, and even a bellydancer! (it's their 21st b-day, so we wanted it to be awesome.) Well, all day yesterday SS's friend and I busted our butts to make this happen. The time comes to surprise him at the resteraunt, and instead of yelling surprise, all the invited guest just stand there like a bunch of losers. There was no real excitment like I thought. The entire night, everyone was real quiet. The only people that would talk was SS and my BF. Then the bellydancer came, and I thought surely we would get a rise out of all these people. Nothing. Nada. Maybe some clapping. This party just wasn't what I wanted it to be. Maybe i was being really negative. At the end of the night, SS didn't even thank me or his friend. He thanked his dad and that was about it. I was so pissed! When I got home I about had it and threw the biggest fit - not because of just that but b/c SS doesn't appreciate anything i do. Then my BF had the nerve to threaten to break up with me- I did all this for his son and for HIM since he couldn't b/c he was at work, and he says that crap? W/E! I have a good mind to slug the hell out of both of them! Well BF apologized and said he would talk to his son about it.

Think about it- what if you did all that and noone gave a ratt's butt? Wouldn't you be so resentful? I've decided I'm not ever wasting my time on that child as long as I live! Sorry to be so brash. And thank you for listening. Your insight would be greatly APPREICIATED! THx.

PS- I call him my SS b/c its hard to say "my BF's son" 800 times! LOL
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 3:01pm

I'm sorry that the party didn't turn out the way you wanted it to.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 6:58pm
Have you ever seen the Fox newest TV show, called The Simple Life, with Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie? Two spoiled rich brats (Hilton Hotel granddaugther and Lionel Richie's) living in a family farm with no money in Arkansas. They now have to learn how to make money, go to a normal job. . . . wearing designer clothes, high hell blah blah blah.

Where am I going with this, you ask? Maybe your son's friends were SHOCKED at what you've done. Appreciate? Thankful? Losers? It's like shoving pornographic to someone's face when maybe they're not INTO THAT kind of stuff. My Christian family would probably disinherit me if I brought out Heavy Metal groupies to my church to sing in choir! Just put yourself in his shoes, or in my shoes, or even those family in Arkansas, having to deal with Paris and Nicole wearing high heels to a country fair.

Hope you understand and cool down, mom.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 11:33am
Thanks. Yeah, venting helps tremendously. I felt better after I wrote that.

I can't talk to him b/c it would be like talking to a wall. He will just sit there and ignore me. That's why I came here and ranted- there's noone else I can rant to. I talked to my BF but he said to duke it out with SS. Oh well. Sometimes there are battles not worth fighting.