Unwanted friendship

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Unwanted friendship
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 5:05pm

Hey everyone,

Just wondering if anyone's been in a situation where they knew someone who wanted to be friends, but was completely not the kind of person you were interested in having a frienship with.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 9:39pm

Hi, It`s nice that you don´t want to hurt other´s feeling but you first need not to hurt yours. Friendships don´t have to keep a special rhythm, you can see someone often and then don´t see them as often as you have had.

You can make up an excuse as: you are taking a new course together, or someone is going back to school or your mom will be there because of

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 6:50pm
I agree with wisdomtooth - my first thought was "if this guy is so unwelcome, why does your husband invite him over for a beer?" I don't know whether your husband is not bothered by him like you are or whether your husband is just too nice and submissive to keep his distance even though he doesn't like the guy. But either way, you need to make it clear to your husband that you are not comfortable around this guy and that you no longer want to spend time with him and his wife. So no more inviting him over to your place and when they ask to hang out, tell your husband that he is free to meet up with them at their place or in a public place but that you will not be joining them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2002
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 4:15pm

Hi, I would end the friendship.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 5:00am


Your husband is the problem. He can't say "no" and he's enabling this guy (and his wife) to be your "friend."

So, sit hubby down and talk about:

1)How INAPPROPRIATE and uncomfortable this guy is and how he makes you feel. NO MAN should allow his wife to be sexually harassed by