Update on DD

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Update on DD
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Sun, 12-05-2010 - 10:57pm

DD came home for the weekend and with the exception of when she came in the house this afternoon to get her cat and argue with me, I only saw her for a minute or two around 3 am both Sat & Sun mornings.

I don't believe she fed her cat at all this weekend - I did.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 12:12am

I'm sorry you had such a tough day.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2008
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 12:59am

Sorry, things went so array today. I don't know what to make of your daughter going ballistic over you mentioning church. Does she feel you're pressuring her into finding a church to go to? She is not fit to take care of any kind of pet. Does this "bf" ever witness her acting like a flake? If so, she better count her lucky starts he's still interested in a relationship with her.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 8:39am

Big Hugs to you.

I know in your previous post, I suggested patience with your DD.

But, after getting a better idea of what you are going through.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 8:39am

Thanks for the hug.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 8:48am

When it comes to her cat, she does a good job with her when they are at in the apt during the week.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 9:51am

I'm sorry to burst your good day, but why are you putting up with this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 12:39pm

I agree with Ohearto and Anna. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells in your own home. I would pull the plug on the open ended invite and cat sitting. Let her make her own arrangements for the cat and visiting her friends in your area. Your house is your home, not a hotel.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 2:06pm
Ok, this might seem petty...

But something rubs me wrong about her telling you to "pick yourself up." It's like her telling you it's your fault you were falling apart after you were treated like that, for the umpteenth time, and you need to buck up. I found it odd phrasing...

Do you know what I mean?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 2:10pm
To clarify, if I may....

The guy's not a real boyfriend. He has more feelings for her than she does for him. Sometimes sounds like her DD is using him.... but I can't say for sure, of course. I think Toby somewhat feels the same, from a couple of her comments.

But yeah, your point was right on. Whether a "wannabe" boyfriend or a real one.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: tobylady
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 2:21pm
I hope you don't freak out over this question, and if you don't want to reply, I'll totally understand. Most people here know what happened to me almost a year ago, so I feel I can ask.... hope it's ok....

Has your dd ever become physical with you? It was obvious to me, before you said it, that you're walking on eggshells. BTDT. I bet you've been doing it for a long time....

You're getting more and more sick. I've btdt, too.

Do you mind if I send you a PM? It's not even about the kids, if that helps!

 

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