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| Fri, 12-30-2011 - 12:15am |
I posted after Christmas about my dysfunctional family. I have deleted both my brother and sister from my Facebook account. My sister send me a message on Facebook asking and I quote, "What's your problem?". I decided to call her and she actually was in tears because I deleted her. I explained to her that I wanted more privacy and she said that was BS. I stood by my story and it only made her more angry. She is such an ugly angry human being and kept telling me I was the one with the problem.
I'm going to lose her as my helper and I'm going to have to find an alternative. I still can't be open and honest with her because I would never see her children. She would love me to disengage from her kids so I have to be extra careful.
San
I'm going to lose her as my helper and I'm going to have to find an alternative. I still can't be open and honest with her because I would never see her children. She would love me to disengage from her kids so I have to be extra careful.
San
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San
I understand the urge to delete these nutty people. BUT! By deleting her, you stepped up the drama.
For example: both of the people that are giving me the silent treatment (see the thread below) are FB friends with me. The crazy mom hasn't talked to me in person for 2 months now. I was tempted also to delete her. But I took a step back and thought about it. If I delete her, I'm in it with her. It shows her that her passive aggressive behavior is effecting me. It's like handing her a victory. It also gives her another reason to feel victimized by me. Passive aggressive people look to feel victimized.
By deleting her, you lashed out emotionally. And now she can tell/show everyone that *you* are the big bully and not her (not true of course, but that's how they think)
My DH said, the trick is act like you don't care. Rise above it and go on about your day as you normally would. Say Hi in person, wish them a happy birthday on FB. Don't bend over backwards for them. But don't give them the negative response they need to prove to themselves you are the problem not them.
Hope you are able to get it worked out.
Still, seems FB is more important to both of you than you acknowledge.
Too much unnecessary drama, imo.
It's important to both of you. That's why you did what you did, and why she was in tears when you called her.
I'd be careful calling her unstable in this situation. Probably others you're right about, but you claim FB isn't important and you purposefully slammed someone on it, which led to tears and phone calls, and more drama.
I can't reconcile your opinions about fb and your actions.
Okay, now I understand that you’ve already had the surgery. You say you don't
San
She's so unstable so I don't really know why she's reacting this way. She even agreed that Facebook wasn't important. She said I'm the only one not getting along with Mom, brother and her so it must be me...this isn't even close to the truth. I'm just fighting back. I don't want to live like this...my health can't handle it.
San
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