Vacation woes

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Vacation woes
Mon, 06-11-2012 - 9:20am

Hi, I'm sure I will get responses from both sides of the sidewalk on this one. I'll try to keep it short and sweet.

Every summer I take my kids on a vacation to the lake. My son is all grown up and out of the house, so now it's just my 2 girls and I, and they each get to bring one friend, someone special. So, we are in the midst of planning as all 4 girls need to arrange for time off of work. It's a mini-getaway for me and also I get some quality time with the kids...after dinner they get to go out and do what they want as long as they are back to our room by curfew. I like the alone time to sit by the lake or read or even just watch TV.

So last night, one of the friends coming says her mom wants to come, too, with her little boy, and her best friend and her 2 kids. (one of whom is a friend of my girls but not in that classification of *special*) I am totally taken aback. I know the one mom on the level of *our kids are good friends* the other not at all.

I know its a free country, they can travel whereever they want to whenever they want to, so why do they have to come up when I am trying to do my thing with the kids? I am a good 10 years older than these other women. I don't want to *socialize* by the pool or have huge dinner outings. I'm so sick to my stomach I"m tempted to abort the whole thing.

I cannot lie. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I just don't know what to do here.

Any thoughts? Please don't tell me to suck it up and deal...I'm spending a lot of money for this trip and I want it my way. If I could, I'd go spur of the moment, like OK, we are going in 2 days...and they probably wouldn't be able to go , then, but like I said, the kids all work and need to get the days off.