verbal abusive mom= end rltnship?
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|Tue, 09-16-2003 - 11:52am|
If I try to ever have a conversation with my mother - she ends up putting me down & usually hanging up on me because she has 'better' things to do. The worst part is that my father will viciously attack me if I try to stand up to my mother. (it's especially sad b/c she's mistreated him terribly in the 40 yrs. they've been married - for many years she had 'boyfriends' openly, she is a packrat & yet won't let my dad keep even his toothbrush in their house because she doesn't want his 'junk' around- he uses it in his car, she's always yelling at him/putting him down also). My dad is truly her servant & always has been. He's kind of like her father eventhough they're the same age- he has to dye her hair for her & fetch everything for her. Makes her food for her..etc... While she puts him down every other word (she even insults him in front of us regarding the sexual inabilities he's had since he had prostate cancer).
If I tell her to stop putting me down, my dad will actually start attacking me verbally.
Even if he isn't present when I speak to her- she'll complain to him that I gave her a hard time - and he'll go after me the next time I see him.
I am so sad to see that I can't really have any relationship with them. They live kind of far away. My mother won't talk on the phone to anyone because she says it annoys her to be on the phone. I can't talk about my life or I know I'll get put down harshly & it always hurts a lot even after all these years.
Can anyone who's had to accept pretty much ending ties to their parents help me out on accepting this?
Thank you kindly. ((hugs)) Katrina