Very SERIOUS dilemma... need advice !!
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|Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:57am|
Let me start by saying that I am a very diplomatic person. I am usually calm and try to reason with ppl but that all went out the door last night.
Here it is...
My mother came to stay with me in Dec 2002 after leaving my dad who was cheating, lying, and VERY verbally abusive.
I accepted her in my home and have dedicated alot of time and effort into helping her get PAST him and his BS.
Keep in mind this is not the first time she has come to live with me for the exact same reasons.
SOOO... just a couple days ago I found out she was still seeing my father, giving him money, and basically being a FOOL for him again. (he DOES have another woman as well who he is supporting financially)
She was hiding it and when I finally confronted her about it last night I kinda' lost it on her. I wasn't disrespectful but I did give her an earful.
I told her that I was worried about her and that she was letting him use her allll over again. I told her that I couldn't accept her lying to me about the situation, staying in my house, while going and seeing him on the side.
NOw before you tell me that I should "mind my own business", please understand that there is a WHOLE lot more to this.
As a child I was sexually molested by my father. I told the police and my mother, and she made it out as nothing... even when I proved it. She still stayed with him. She knew what he was doing to my sister and I and still stayed with him.
I let that go for years but now that I'm older and a mom myself, I can't live with all of this pent up inside anymore. Last night I also told her that she had no business staying with a child molester, and that she didn't care about me.
That was the end of it. She walked out. She didn't take any clothes or anything.
I don't even know where she is!!
I am worried, angry, and basically feeling like an orphan. I don't speak to my father anymore since my mom left him and I was relieved that she did.
NOW... what should I do? I can't see myself apologizing for trying to help her. I don't feel bad for telling her my mind. I could never stay with a man who did that to my kids and I can't believe she is still choosing him over me!!!
I'm sorry this is so personal but I have nobody else to vent to.
Any ideas and thoughts would be wonderful.
Thanks in advance.