We can't pick our own house.....
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|Sat, 05-24-2003 - 1:37pm|
DH and I fight constantly now about whether to just go out and do what we want. I know we should, but I know they will complain at me for the rest of my life that our choice of house was not good enough, too expensive, etc. I'll never hear the end of how ungrateful we are to not use their help and how stupid we are. Its to the point where we feel we can't even go out and look on our own without their approval on the house first, let alone buy it. By the time my parents find one that meets their approval, we will feel obligated to just buy it whether we like it or not just to get it over with. I know I'll resent it for the rest of my life if that happens.
House hunting together is supposed to be a fun and exciting experience that DH and I might never get to experience together if I can't stand up for myself on this. I'm 33 and he's 44 for God sakes, so its not like we're kids. We're moving to a different town, so this has to be done this summer before school starts again, but my parents get mad when we want to go look at great looking homes now and complain that we are not being patient. There are dozens of homes listed that we would kill to live in right now, but to my parents there is never one quite good enough. They always discount our home choices for the smallest reason, such as it doesn't come with a washer, or one of the bedrooms is only 9 feet wide. To them you should always keep waiting for something better no matter how long it takes, but its not like we have unlimited time or funds.
I am torn over how to be able to go and pick our own house the way we want to do it and when we want to do it without having them put us down for it the rest of our lives.