Weight Issue

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Weight Issue
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 2:05pm

I don't know if I should say ANYTHING or just keep my mouth shut.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 2:49pm

No, I would not say anything.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2010
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 2:59pm

you said you havent seen her is a few years...you have no idea what she weighs...its not your place to say anything anyway. If she cant she will know. Dont be concerned about other people's weight....worry about yourself. You know its been a touchy subject with YOU...WHY would you inflict this on her????

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 3:14pm

Oops....I saw her in August.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2010
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 3:16pm

OOOH!! okay..now it makes sense :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 4:12pm

Doesn't change my answer.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 4:49pm

Great way to explaine it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: ohearto
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 5:44pm
I've found that daughters never take weight comments well from their mothers. Not even framed healthwise.

I wouldn't say a word. Ever.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: ohearto
Fri, 10-22-2010 - 9:24am
My mum was constantly on our cases about weight. Even when I put on 5lbs, she would comment that I'm getting a belly. I'm 5'4" and always swung between 110 and 120 lbs. My one sister was always a yo-yo dieter and the other sister just thinks "diet" is a four letter word and is pretty big right now.

After witnessing all this, I learned that people KNOW they're overweight (even when they seem delusional. The mirror doesn't lie). When people tell someone she is overweight, something strange happens. She tends to eat even more and exercise less. No one loses weight, unless they decide they want to do what it takes to lose the weight.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2001
In reply to: ohearto
Sat, 10-23-2010 - 5:21pm

I'm going to weigh in on this one. I am 47yo and overweight. I have been all my life. My mother comments constantly about my weight. She has been on me all my life about it, sent me to Weight Watchers at 16. She would pay for it if I lost weight, I had to pay if I didn't. Ended up even if I lost the weight I was paying for it. She says she is concerned about my health, which I am too, but what I am hearing is that I am not good enough the way I am. I have accepted that I am heavy. My Dad's side of the family is the same way. I spent a weekend with her not long ago because my sister was gone for the weekend and we didn't want my Mom being alone due to health issues. She criticized what

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: ohearto
Sat, 10-23-2010 - 9:55pm

I agree.