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|Mon, 07-14-2003 - 1:03pm|
My cousin started dating this girl when she was like 16 yrs old and tried to help her to stay away from the drugs. The thing is the parents got divorced and I don’t know why my cousin did not get along very well with his gf’ dad, because of that the dad does not know his grand son because my cousin does not let him see him. The dad once divorced went on and lived his own life away from the city (not in another country) but he still deposited money for her daughter. The girl’s dad warned her some years ago that once she began a family and have a man in her life, he will stopped paying her the monthly allowance, because she will have already somebody to support her. The issue is that thing already happened, the girl has been living with my cousin like 1 yr and half ago and they have a son together. This girl as I said, she does not work or study but now she has my cousin who supports her now. At this moment, the girl’s dad does not know her daughter is living with my cousin and he is now the one who has to support her and the baby.
The girl’s dad knew they were dating some years ago but he never knew if they end up together or not. The girl does not want to tell her dad she is already living with someone, because she does not want her dad to quit giving her monthly allowance and my cousin agrees with her. Both of them don’t want the dad to know they are living together and my cousin has suggested his family that if by any chance the girl’s dad gets in touch with us and ask for them, that we don’t tell him they are already living together, that we lie to him and tell him that we haven’t heard of them for a while, just because they still want keep receiving the allowance that belongs to my cousin’s gf because is more income for their house and since the only one who works in my cousin, that extra money is perfect for them.
Remember that the girl’s dad told her a time ago, that he will stop giving her allowance once she settles and have someone to support her so as long as the dad continues to think the girl is not living with anyone, the money will continue to come in, that is why my cousin and his gf don’t speak to the man and don’t have any kind of contact with him.
I think that sooner or later the dad will eventually find out and my cousin won’t get off the hook that easily.
But I just found out something that my cousin did, I believe it is very unethical and inappropriate. My mom told me that her nephew (my cousin) put a restraining order to the girl’s dad, just in case the dad stopped depositing money to his daughter at any moment. I mean if the dad finds out that his daughter already have someone to support her and he stopped giving her money, the police will catch him and force him to continue to deposit the money, because my cousin was the one who put that order against him. Poor guy!!!
Can you believe it? I mean, my cousin lives with the girl and his obligation now is to support her gf and his son now, his father in law is not forced to keep supporting his daughter, if she has someone already in her life. But my cousin wants his father in law to continue to deposit his gf allowance. My opinion is that, hello??? My cousin has to support his own family now; they decided to live together some time ago, so now he is the one who has to support his family. The father in law has no obligation to keep supporting his daughter if she already has a man who supports her. My cousin is moron. Be a man and face the consequences of living together with his gf and his son. Why other people have to pay for his mistakes?? The son he had with his gf, was not planned, at first he even doubted if the baby was his.