I have 2 adult DD - 22 & 28.
I remember you from years ago on the Parents of Teens board.
I don't think your DD needs counseling. I think she needs time to heal from the divorce and whatever else went on during her marriage. Her self esteem may be shot right now, but I'm sure she'll bounce back. Her sister may sound like she's "together" and your DD may feel like 2 cents compared to her. Kudos to her that she's going to grad school and trying to make a life without her Ex hubby. Also why do you call her current BF a "wannabe?" It sounds like you don't take what she's doing seriously (therefore you don't take the new BF seriously).
I guess until we get more info. & background we are just left to ponder.... I wondered about the wannabe bf part
I do remember you.
I call the current guy a "wannabe b/f" because she lets him take her to dinner, etc but she says he's not her b/f.
The "wannabe b/f" is what she calls him.
It sounds like your DD is depressed.
Thanks for clearing that up. I thought you were referring to him as a "wannabe" boyfriend and didn't want him around or take him seriously. Sorry about that. Anyway, it does sound to me that she is using him. He seems to provide what she wants and needs, so she will hang onto him as long as he's willing to "just be a friend". But he's doing what a lot of hopeful people do. He's hoping she will see all the good he does and decide he's a keeper.