What do I do about my roommate?
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|Mon, 07-28-2003 - 4:42pm|
My roommate and I just moved into a townhouse (that she bought) and we pay 50/50 in rent and I am on the lease. We haven't had problems in the past, but now we are having a problem and I just wanted to get some feedback on what I should do. I know what I should do, but might just need a more tactful way.
We have had 2 conversations now about have our SO over to the townhouse. My boyfriend is ober about once a week if that. Her boyfriend is over (at first 6 out of 7 nights) but now about 4-5 nights a week. When we talked the first time, she understood where I was coming from and then only had him over once that following week. We had another issue come up and the Sleepover convo came up again, and she made a point that he was only over once that week and that I was barely home at all. My rebuttal was that it didn't matter if I was home because I pay rent and he doesn't ( as he showers and eats and sleeps) so it doesn't matter where I was. I told her to just use discretion or common sense and have him over a night and skip two nights or something to that affect. she saw my point, but then the week that we had the talk, he was over for the next four nights in a row. Do I say something or am I being to picky to bring it up so quickly again. I like the guy adn think he is nice, but I don't want to live with him. They hang out in the common areas (and I know I can too) but I don't want to feel like that 3rd wheel (as they play kissy face and touch all the time). They cannot go over to his house (as i can with my boyfriend) becasue he lives with his mom (he's 35, she's 22).
She thinks that I am need to make a rule about about ( I did) but she wants me to lay out specifics. Which days? I think that if she used common sense, it would be easy. I am not stopping them from seeing each other, but I feel like he is invading my privacy as well.
Also, she is so wrapped up in him, she neglects her friends, has basically become and alcholic, and we haven't had a conversation in a month.
Does anyone know a reasonable way to get through to her, without me blowing my top???