What to do... what to do.....

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Registered: 03-06-2011
What to do... what to do.....
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Sun, 03-06-2011 - 8:09pm

First, I'll give you some background. I'm a 26 year old guy. I have a brother who's 28 and we were like best friends. We even look so much alike, people think we're twins and we have to correct them. Two years ago, I moved across the country for a job. He stayed in my home town.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 1:16pm
What if the brother doesn't see the need for, or want, a bachelor party? OP hasn't mentioned that. OP has mentioned that others are counting on OP for a good time.

Maybe the brother needs to be left alone..

JMHO.

 

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 1:24pm

A couple things here, Shadowsfall.

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Mon, 03-07-2011 - 7:07pm
I think you need to have a heart to heart with him. Can you two sneak off for a drink or two? Have you had the "so you're sure this is the one" talk?
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Registered: 12-02-2008
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 8:16pm
You could be right....but I'm wondering...exactly how many men DON'T really want a bachelor party??? Just saying...I've never met a man who didn't want to go out with the guys, get drunk & look at ta-tas......I'm sure there are some out there, but I'm thinking more men would want a party then would not want a bachelor party!!!






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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 9:02pm
I was just thinking that this guy might not want to be put in the middle between his fiancee and his brother over a party.

The OP, IF this is real, should ask the brother and not take it upon himself to do this if it might cause problems between the couple. It's not the OP's business to insert himself.

 

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 9:06pm

He does want a bachelor party. We used to talk about it until she biotched about it. As far as I know, he still wants the party. It's like, he wants the party, but he's afraid of how she'll act. He doesn't want to tell us that. He knows what we'll say.

CFK.

I think you need to have a heart to heart with him. Can you two sneak off for a drink or two? Have you had the "so you're sure this is the one" talk?

I can't say we had the "are you sure she's the one talk". I wanted to ask him that, but the entire time he was saying how great she is and she cooks great and notice how she stays in shape and all that kind of stuff. I was thinking "okay, I guess she is the one".

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 9:34pm

I guess there is a lot of confusion. Let me clear it up. My replies in red.

A couple things here, Shadowsfall.

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 2:55am
Oh...its definitely going to cause problems!!!!!! lol... The bride will definitely get her panties in a wad...and she may stomp off & cry even....but if she really loved & trusted him....a bachelor party shouldn't matter!!! And that's what the op should tell his brother!!! Dontcha' think?????
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 3:34am
Honestly, I am having problems with the story altogether.

If the brother told OP he wants a party, and wants his brother to throw one, then why is he here asking what to do?





 

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 8:04am

>>At least now I can just tell myself it has more to do with the distance and less with me. It's the only way I can deal with this right now.