What to do... what to do.....

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What to do... what to do.....
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Sun, 03-06-2011 - 8:09pm

First, I'll give you some background. I'm a 26 year old guy. I have a brother who's 28 and we were like best friends. We even look so much alike, people think we're twins and we have to correct them. Two years ago, I moved across the country for a job. He stayed in my home town.

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Fri, 03-11-2011 - 6:50pm

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:34pm

"When we got near each other and started to talk, she swooped down like a hawk and gave him a chore to do or pulled him away (like in another room)"

Did you ever confront her when this kind of thing happened? Tell her "hey I only see him twice a year, you see him everyday so give me some time with him" or something like that?

If my brother had married a gal like your future SIL I think I would have had to say something. It might've caused friction between the couple but there's going to be friction somewhere with a control freak.

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 8:51pm

I don't understand. So you're saying it could only get worse, not better? My brother was always good about picking out nice girls. I don't know what happened there. There's something he likes about her, but I don't know what. She's hot, but that's all that's going on with her. My brother had hot looking girlfriends in the past, but this is the one he picked. I'm just here venting. My brother and my friendship is decaying. I'm not happy about it.

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 6:21pm

First, it wasn't a "chick".

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 5:48pm

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 5:32pm

Let me see if I have this right.

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 5:18pm

Thanks. I hope we get back to how we were too. Some of us think that when he comes to the bachelor party -- and we think he'll come -- that he'll see what life was like before she came along. He'll want some of that back. I'm not saying I want to party with him every weekend -- I can't now because of distance -- I just want to be able to visit and spend some time with him. Last Christmas I spent absolutely NO time with him. We said two words to each other. When we got near each other and started to talk, she swooped down like a hawk and gave him a chore to do or pulled him away (like in another room). I wanted to go to the airport with him, but the people he was picking up had to squeeze in with all their luggage.

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Wed, 03-09-2011 - 11:31pm

Then it's settled. He wants the party and it seems that the type of party you will have is decided. Hopefully, he won't chicken out at the last minute and he'll come to the party. I hope you're relationship does get back to how it was before she came along. I know some things will have to changed (he's a married man now), but there's no reason you two can't carry on as brothers / friends and do stuff together.

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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 9:54pm

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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 9:43pm

He banned you from your daughter's life? Now that's a control - freak. I'm glad for you that you're close again. You may have mentioned it, but I'm lazy... how long was she married to that guy for? Glad she's got a good guy now.

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