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|Fri, 04-18-2003 - 4:50pm|
This is not the first time this has happened. My family who claims to be very religious, act very non-christian, and they think their actions are right. I really don't have the time or energy to go there right now.
I made things worse by saying nevermind, but this is why. The last holiday they asked a distant relatives brother-in-law who the family has not been in touch with for years to come over, and he had an invitation elsewhere, but did not want to go. They invited him again for Easter, which he has an invite elsewhere but won't go. I asked why it's ok for him to be invited, they said so he won't be alone. Money is not an issue, and it's not like they don't like my father-in-law, this is their weird way of thinking and reasoning. They said they are not obligated to ask him, that it's up to my husbands or father-in-laws family to ask him over for dinner. Yet, the distant relative is invited.
I will now have to make arrangements to make dinner, which is not an issue for me, BUT I can't take my family to my parents AND be at my own home at the same time, and if we don't go to my family, there will be comments made about that.
I think I have just about had it, the holidays are always like this. You would think it would kill them to act kind. I am so angry and upset, I don't want to go to my family at all, but then my son won't be able to see them or my visiting family, and he's too little to understand, yet, I feel I don't want him exposed to this, because look what it does to me. I sit and think how can these people behave like this? I have learned to accept so much and let it go, because I think they don't know better, or did they best they could as parents with what they had. This puts me in a very difficult place.
My father ended with, well I'm not going to let your attitude ruin my holiday, as if I was out of line to be upset.