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|Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:27pm|
Well to shorten a book, We'd been happily married for about 5 years before she decided to step in.It was perfectly clear to me what she was trying to do and she wasn't shy about it niether. Dh agreed with me but thought we should overlook her which I did for awhile. Well with all her blunt comments about her and dh's relationship not being so innocent, and the only reason he married me was because she refused to marry him and then trying to sue me for something I had nothing to do with. In my eyes it was past time to set her straight, but dh thought i was just trying to cause trouble and should overlook her. Was even gone to give her money to help her out because he felt sorry for her. I wasn't my fault I wasn't anywhere around her.
Well I thought he promised not to associate with her anymore. That was a lie come to find out he was stopping at her brother house knowing she would be there, but I'm suppose to believe he didn't have a choice but to talk to her because he couldn't be rude.Then I find out dh got her db job with him was taking him to and from work because he had lost his license over dui's.which meant he would see her ever morning and evening.Then found out she was hanging around at dh's job all day supposedly to talk to her brother and dh couldn't do anything about that so he had to talk to her. Well next thing you know she weasels into the job working closest with dh.
i really wonder if db is a cover for her and dh.Dh promised not to talk to her anymore then he had to and she probably wouldn't last long she's never held a job over a few weeks.Ok next thing you know the boss calls to see what happened this girl left work 3 hrs. early one day. Dh covered for her and then called her house to tell her what to say so she didn't get fired. That doesn't sound like he wants her out of there.
We had to get a cell phone just so I can get ahold of dh in case of an emergency. Dh came home one day and was all upset with me because she told him the school had called for hm to get dd#1 because I wouldn't answer the phone. That was a flat out lie. I'm the one that left that message. A few day later dh comes home and say she told him the boss oredered her not to answer the phone or tell dh when I called.
I called her to see if she was gone to tell me the same thing because I've know the boss and his family for along time and that didn't sound like him. Well she told me the same thing and said another guy overheard. Well I told dh to ask the boss, he wouldn't do it,I told him ask the other man. He said he did and that guy said he didn't know anything but he didn't think that guy would say anything if he had. I can understand that.Anyways dh wouldn't ask the boss so I did. He called here one day so I asked him if there was a problem with me calling out there for dh. He said he's thought he's told me that anytime I needed dh or just wanted to talk to him to just call. He knew dd was sick and would never do that.Well I told dh what the boss said, but he still brings it up and says he really thinks the boss said that because he didn't think she would just make it up.
One day it was just me and him in the car. sked him what he wanted to talk about. He was quiet for a few min. then started talking about how upset this girl was over her brother getting drunk and not showing up for work.
I really think there is more gone on then he'll admit to, but don't know what to do about it.I wish I knew without a doubt what is gone through his head. Dh is the type that will let people walk all over him, she's his best friends sister and I know how she is so can't take anything she says or does for a fact, and he has always been close to her whole family and I know he feels sorry for them.
What really gets me is I'm suppose to think he's innocent and I'm the one thats trying to be controlling while I set back and watch her controll him. He doesn't care much for his boss anymore and used to be people were surprised to find out they weren't father and son. He doesn't talk to the people that we both have in common anymore.Even came home one day and thought we should take dd to a certain dr. becasue ours couldn't find out what was wrong and this girl said this dr. would know.
I can either just leave or ride it out and see what happens.I really think we could work it out if he would get her out of his life but don't think thats gone to happen. I could get her fired, wouldn't be hard I could have already done it,but I don't think that will stop her from hanging around him.He needs to be the one to stop it before I think I'll be satisfied.Ok I'm rambling I just feel so stupid for staying but don't want to split the family if I'm just being jealous and he's innocent, but then he should be taking up for me and our marriage if he really loves me.