What's the right thing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
What's the right thing?
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Thu, 04-12-2012 - 1:18pm

My neice has 2 teen-aged daughters now 18 and 20.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 2:21pm

Has anyone ever heard of CONTRACEPTIVES!?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2012
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 5:03am
If you must pick a card, I'd go with the "thinking of you." It doesn't sound judgmental to me.

In my family, situations of this sort aren't spoken of. It's kept hush-hush.

Unbelievable that your family expects anything of you, much less outright support.

Good luck. Let us know what happens.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 10:15am
My thoughts on this is this baby is going to need strong healthy people and you can be a part of that. It's done...it's a baby and it's not going away. Judgement days are over and time to concentrate on how to be someone this baby can strive to be like. I'm sure it's heartbreaking but it's the way they live their life and no one can dictate how someone exists.

Let it go and be a hero for this baby.

Good luck.

San
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 11:13am

It is an easy thing to say, but A LOT of work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 5:00pm
No one has to be a role model! A bigger person knowing the dysfunction this baby is being born into would want to be a ray of normal for a child. Doing nothing and sticking her head in the sand would be painful watching this child growing up imitating the same behaviors.

If it was me I would want to attempt to show this beautiful baby there is love in life!!

San
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 9:33am

I still don't think it is fair that everyone in her family (and now even people on the board), is putting pressure and trying to guilt the OP into "being a bigger person" and becoming involved.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 10:02am
You're absolutely right. It's the OP's decision. There's no pressure being placed here it's only good solid opinions. That's what makes these message boards so useful. Each person has an opinion and each one will be different so the OP can make an informed decision that fits the situation.

In my world I would try as hard as hard as I can to make a positive impact on this innocent baby. I know first hand that one person can make a huge difference to a child.

San
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 4:34am

Thanks for your replies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 8:35am

The hand-made cards was a good idea.

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