When To Let Things Go
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|Tue, 07-01-2003 - 1:59pm|
I am now is a great relationship and have most of my life together. My mom is still the big problem in my life. She hates my boyfriend and makes no effort to hid the fact. She doesn't think he is good enough for me. Even though both her and my dad made my life horrible growing up. She kept me away from my grandfather whose was dying of cancer. She only allowed me to see him in the final month he was alive.
Back before Christmas I went to see them. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement. I thought it would be best to get some space so I planned to go to my parents' house for a few hours. When I got there my dad was in one of his horrible mood. When I told my mom what was going on, he starting yelling at me that I was worthless and stupid. He shoved me and a put my arms up to defend myself. The next thing I know he punches me in the face. I immediate left. I went home. My boyfriend called the cops and I ended up in the e.r. with a black eye and orbital fractures. Of course the cops did nothing because my mom made up some great story about how my dad was just defending himself. This has been my mom's excuse since I was little. She has the nerve to call and see if I was coming to spend Christmas with them. My boyfriend told her to leave me alone. He thought she had "done enough for me". Christmas and the next few months came and went. I made the mistake of call my grandma (mom's mom) for Mother's Day. She gave me this great guilt trip about the whole thing. I told her when my mom could act like a mom and quit making my life so difficult I would talk to her. A few weeks later my mom called me at my work number. I have no clue how she got it. She needed advise on a business matter and wanted to know if I would help her. I told her to leave me alone and hung up the phone. I have not heard from her since then.
I have let a lot of things go with my mom. But this was just the last one. My grandma says it is my place to make things right. I have spend my whole life letting my mom get away with "murder" because I love her and don't want to be a "bad daughter". But I feel there is a time to cut ties no matter who the person is. I don't feel like I am wrong or am I?
Help someone, please!