Where is the Great Active Old IVillage of 11 Years Ago Where People Really Interracted...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2013
Where is the Great Active Old IVillage of 11 Years Ago Where People Really Interracted...
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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 11:38am

..and you felt like you had support?

Feedback is the only reason to post here, otherwise...effort for nothing...thanks anyway...

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2004

It took me 45 minutes to log in.  

Ivillage has done everything possible to run everyone off.  A few of us old timers still hang around, but rarely post.

How are you?  Do you need help? 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2013

Thanks so much for asking.  I do appreciate it.

I wonder why ivillage has done this.  At one time in my life the support I received on these boards helped me tremendously to cope with a very difficult, even hazardous, situation.  The internet seems to have changed from helpful and informative to commercialized, impersonal, and intrusive.  From a friendly (albeit far from private, despite illusions of partial privacy) place, to an environment that is cold at best, and treacherous at its worst.

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2002

I think the "effort for nothing" goes both ways.  I've responded to a number of posts, asking questions or making suggestions, and got nothing in response from the initial poster.  I even think that some posters are just bogus, considering the ludicrous situations that are depicted.  I've even started to type a response and then decided against it because I felt I was wasting my energy.  To be honest, people who vent the same stuff over and over again really put a damper on these boards.  They aren't willing to change, and yet expect the same level of support when they ignore any suggestions.  It can be very trying at times to read these boards. 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2007

Hello,

I could swear I responded to this yesterday, but my post isn't here, I'll try again.  So your date registered is 5/26/13, did you have to re-register?  It wouldn't surprise me.  I got a new laptop for Christmas and it took me FOREVER it seemed to be able to go on ivillage again.  I too used to get more support.  Sometimes I go for days with no response from anyone.  Do you think people are just too busy or do you think the difficulties with using ivillage have driven them away?  If you are busy and just want to give a quick answer and then cannot log in I could see where people would get frustrated and just not come back.  Also, when some people do respond some of them are harsh and critical.   It did used to be more friendly and supportive I think.   Anyhow, just my two cents. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003

It just took me 10 minutes to sign in, I had to leave the page because after I sign in it say that I am not authorized to access the page and access is denied.  So for me the frustration of signing in is why I've just about abandoned the site.  It has to be a very compelling post for me to respond.  I am in regular contact with several other former posters and it's the same for them. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008

While the "new and improved" version of iVillage can be frustrating at times, let's keep it in perspectve that the boards are 100% free.  Often in life you get what you paid for, and this case, nothing for nothing.

To the OP, perhaps it is time to invest in a therapist instead of relying on random strangers.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2013

First of all, because these message boards are so much less user friendly, it blocks the ease of communication that used to exist.

Secondly, it does seem the world has changed in 11 years.  Although terrorism, etc seems to bring people together at first, I think in the long run it makes people harder, more wary, less open, and less cheerful.

I have noticed that people seem more crtical and judgmental.  Also, what I would expect from family here (was living overseas) is just not there.  There is no moral support and a judgmental attitude.  In general, I am finding a changed attitude here of not being open to communication, to taking an interest in others' lives, or to giving one another moral support.  It is as if asking for that is asking too much, and you should keep it to yourself and pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, or else be subject to criticism. Now perhaps this is just subjective, and unique to my experience, I don't know for sure.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2013

I don't know about people who "vent the same stuff over and over again", but I think these forums should be there to exchange ideas.  There is no requirement to give advice, and certainly no requirement to take advice.  It is more about exchanging experiences, finding common ground and giving feedback.

I don't believe there is any assumption on these boards that one is trying to find a substitute for therapy, and that one should take people's advice or shut up.  What happened to just communicating, listening to one another, and giving moral support without judgment?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2013

Just because you want to communicate and get feedback on forums that are designed for that purpose, does not have anything to do with whether or not you are seeing a therapist.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2013

I read on a board that they were having technical issues that they knew about and was being fixed so I don't think they are trying to run anyone off.  If you go to that one page with all the boards listed you can find some great conversations.

Good luck

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